5 Causes You Don’t Get Sufficient Clear Relaxation When You are Working From A To-Do Listing

That is Half 2 of my 5-Half Clear Relaxation Sequence. We perfectionists LOVE a superb to-do listing…

However working from a to-do listing makes it actually difficult to get sufficient clear relaxation – even if you happen to’re making an actual effort to have extra work-life steadiness.

And I share the 5 the explanation why – and useful examples for every cause – on this second episode of my clear relaxation collection. I additionally discuss why there’s by no means any time for relaxation and why you’re feeling behind once you work from a to-do listing. 

For those who solely get a break from your small business once you’re busy recovering from burnout, this clear relaxation collection – and at this time’s episode specifically – goes to be insanely useful.

Discover the complete episode transcript and present notes at samlaurabrown.com/episode525.

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Introduction

Hello, and welcome to a different episode of The Perfectionism Challenge. A podcast filled with perfectionism recommendation for entrepreneurs. My identify is Sam Laura Brown, I assist entrepreneurs launch their perfectionism handbrake, to allow them to get out of their very own means and construct a satisfying and worthwhile enterprise. I’m the founding father of the perfectionist getting shit accomplished group teaching program, which is in any other case generally known as PGSD. And for much more perfectionism recommendation that can assist you with your small business, you may observe me on Instagram @perfectionismproject.

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This episode is the second half in a 5 half collection about clear relaxation. Clear relaxation is when you find yourself resting with out guilt, it’s intentional non-business time. And it’s going to show you how to get right into a development mindset, get out of your individual means in your small business. So you may present up totally and do all of the issues that you realize you could do. So simply to recap, the place this matches in with the expansion mindset and within the course of for creating that. So the PGSD course of is how one can get out of your individual means.

And that includes planning correctly as a perfectionist, this includes setting your development objective, we break that down into quarterly milestones. After which we’re utilizing energy planning each week to pursue our quarterly milestones, and finally, our development objective, observe by along with your plans, relaxation with out guilt, and repeat and need to underline that relaxation with out guilt and repeat. That’s what we’re speaking about on this collection.

And I need to just be sure you find out about PGSD, and that you realize that you’re invited to hitch us on the doorways to PGSD that stands for perfectionist getting shit accomplished. We’ll be opening at 6am New York time on the 4th of April, and shutting at 11:59pm New York time on the eleventh of April. So in case you are somebody who’s burning out, possibly you might be working in spurts of motivation, you could have these intense intervals of productiveness, and then you definitely sort of fall off the wagon for every week or a month, and then you definitely get again on and also you’re insanely productive.

Since you’re making an attempt to make up for previous procrastination and simply this entire factor, I actually need to invite you into PGSD. So you may get into that development mindset so you may get out of your individual means. You’ll be able to, as I mentioned on the high, present up totally and do all of the issues that you realize you could do to construct your small business. So let’s discuss why it’s actually difficult to get clear relaxation when you find yourself working from a to do listing, we perfectionist, we love a superb to do listing. We actually like we love being productive. That’s like high 5 issues we need to really feel we need to really feel productive, we need to really feel organized.

And so having a to do listing permits us to reside on this land of hope. It’s like this type of lottery ticket mentality that once we’re writing out this to do listing, we get to consider what if, what if I used to be productive and like, we get to really feel virtually as if we’ve ticked off the to do lists simply by writing it out, then we are able to find yourself on this procrasti-planning, the place we’re writing and rewriting and rewriting to do lists of duties that we all know we’re not going to get accomplished, or they’re so obscure that this entire lengthy to do listing simply turns into so overwhelming that we don’t even know the place to begin. So that you may end up on this dilemma that you simply really feel like you haven’t any time to get something accomplished. After which once you do have the time to get shit accomplished, you don’t even know the place to start to do nothing in any respect.

After which that provides extra stress to every part as a result of you could have even much less time now to get stuff accomplished. So I would like you to know that that is only a planning downside. Your observe by downside is only a planning downside. And anybody can learn to plan correctly as perfectionist. So I need to speak to you as nicely on this episode about what it appears prefer to be planning correctly as a perfectionist, what the three steps of energy planning are, why that doesn’t contain working from a to do listing.

So that you’re actually set as much as have it’s straightforward to get clear relaxation, as a result of in case you are making an attempt to take what’s being shared about clear relaxation on this collection, and use no matter to do listing methodology or possibly you’ve acquired all of those completely different like paper planners or various things like that, or possibly you could have been calendaring. And you’ve got been time blocking. So that you simply have like chunks of time for like Instagram content material and work on web site and like that sort of factor, which isn’t energy planning.

So with energy planning, we’re working from a calendar however we’re doing it in a means that will get our perfectionist mindset on our aspect. And that isn’t what sometimes tends to occur. Like after I first began working from a calendar earlier than I used to be energy planning and actually discovered what that appears like. I used to be what I’d name time blocking and it was simply so insane what I anticipated of myself. I principally anticipated myself to not eat, to not have like all time between issues.

So like if I acquired residence from someplace I want to leap into one thing immediately that I didn’t want actually any sleep and that every part would get accomplished tremendous shortly that I’d by no means have any resistance or motivational issues or something like that. Like I used to be simply planning for this idealistic model of myself that I had in my thoughts. And it was quite a lot of stress, I at all times fell behind. And inside a few days, I had simply fully deserted my calendar altogether. And I used to be again to the to do listing. So possibly that’s what you’re doing. Simply need to be clear, that’s not what it appears prefer to be energy planning.

And once we are going by the three steps of energy planning, in order that’s your energy hour, your little tweaks, your weekly assessment, I educate that in depth intimately inside PGSD. When you find yourself doing that, you might be planning in a means that will get your perfectionist mindset in your aspect, which implies you’re not over planning anymore, which is what I used to be simply speaking about. You’re not beneath planning, the place you could have these actually obscure plans. So I used to be speaking about that when it’s like, work on Instagram stuff.

After which it’s like work on web site, once we simply have these obscure chunks, that’s beneath planning when issues aren’t particular sufficient for us to really observe by on and that’s very overwhelming as nicely. And we’re simply sort of winging it on this obscure means. Our mind is like, I don’t actually know what to do. So I’m simply going to do nothing in any respect. So we need to be sure that we aren’t over planning, we’re not beneath planning and we’re additionally protecting our plans workable. In order that’s the little tweaks, step of energy planning, it’s so vital we do this.

And we are inclined to not do this, once we are time blocking and doing these issues. And we undoubtedly are inclined to not preserve our plans workable once we are working from a to do listing, as a result of it’s probably not workable to start with. It’s simply this lengthy want listing of stuff that our motivated self, we’d like to do. And possibly you could have as nicely, simply considering of various ways in which I’ve heard our PGSDers deliberate earlier than they joined PGSD, that they might have a to do listing for each class of life.

So that you might need a enterprise to do listing and you’ve got possibly a home to do listing, then you could have a to do listing referring to well being and health, such as you’ve simply making an attempt to cowl each space directly. And it’s so overwhelming. So I need to speak on this episode about why it’s so arduous to get clear relaxation once you’re working from a to do listing particular causes for that. And I need to share a bit with you about energy planning and what that appears like.

And the way it makes it straightforward to get clear relaxation. After which within the subsequent episode, we’re going to be going into element with that how one can plan out your clear relaxation. And particularly by way of the three steps of energy planning, the place clear relaxation matches in with every of these, so that you’re actually arrange for fulfillment with that. And once more, I need to invite you into PGSD, to actually not simply perceive this stuff intellectually, however to actually have all of the instruments, have all of the assist and have the dedication, and we make the three month dedication to energy planning, you could have the dedication to creating this work as a result of it does work.

It’s so unimaginable, it does work and the advantages of getting clear relaxation, and simply having the ability to sit down in the beginning of the week. And at any time when you are able to do your Energy Hour everytime you need. However having the ability to take a look at your calendar, and you realize precisely what you could do. You understand how a lot time you could have, you realize that you’ve got thought of that possibly at instances you’re gonna have low power, or possibly like me, possibly you could have kids.

And also you’ve acquired plans which might be workable, that embody buffer time that you realize that if one thing comes up unexpectedly, that it is possible for you to to regulate and adapt to that that you’re being so rattling type to your self along with your calendar, however not in a means that permits you to off the hook, you might be being type to your self within the sense that you’re really giving your self the complete alternative to point out up for your self and your small business and your objectives that you’ve got. And to additionally maintain your self and to additionally maintain your loved ones or no matter else you could have occurring. It’s life altering, to have the ability to have that sense of readability and calm.

And that container to do brave issues and to problem your self and to blow your individual thoughts and to point out your self what is feasible. And it’s simply actually, actually, actually arduous to do this when you find yourself working from a to do listing. So with all that mentioned, let’s discuss a few of the causes that it’s actually arduous to get clear relaxation when you find yourself working from a to do listing. And this implies if you happen to’re working from a to do listing, and there’s a time and a spot for to do lists. Don’t get me improper, like I nonetheless use a little bit to do listing for my life admin stuff.

However on the subject of enterprise, we don’t need to be working from a to do listing. It simply makes it really easy to get in your individual means and to have your perfectionist mindset working towards you rather than having it give you the results you want. So listed below are 5 causes that clear relaxation is so arduous when you find yourself working from a to do listing. So the primary is that there’s by no means time for relaxation. There’s no time left over. So quite a lot of instances once we are working from a protracted to do listing. And once more with all that talking from expertise right here like I want to scrub all these lengthy to do lists.

So I get it. And I’ve coached a whole lot of PGSDers who we’re utilizing to do lists. And it’s not like we weren’t getting something accomplished in any respect, you could have in all probability been capable of make cash in your small business and expertise a point of success. However you are actually bumping up towards that subsequent degree. And you realize, that you could work on how you might be managing your time and the way you might be managing your thoughts. Time administration is my administration. So you realize that that is one thing that you could work on. So anyway, all of that to say,

I get it, there’s nothing improper, like we get informed about these to do lists and simply, you realize, write a giant lengthy to do listing, after which simply decide your high priorities, after which deal with them. And that simply doesn’t work. When we have now a perfectionist mindset, and we’re in that mindset, and we’re, as a substitute of, you realize, simply having the priorities, after which being ones we are able to truly get accomplished, then we decide these obscure priorities that we all know aren’t actually going to get accomplished.

However we actually ought to do them as a result of we’ve been procrastinating on them for therefore lengthy. After which there’s these simply, they’re simply these huge, obscure beasts of a job that we really feel so overwhelmed that we don’t even know the place to begin, we simply bounce from job to job to job, not getting something totally full. However we’re so busy, as a result of we’re identical to doing a little bit little bit of this, after which a little bit little bit of that, after which a little bit little bit of that. After which we don’t get something accomplished in any respect.

After which we’re like, nicely, I simply must do something I can. So then we find yourself doing busy work simply in order that we are able to really feel like we’re doing one thing after which when the subsequent week comes proper now let’s do the listing once more. And following that recommendation. It doesn’t work for perfectionist, most recommendation doesn’t work for perfectionist on the subject of planning and productiveness. And it’s gonna make your perfectionist mindset work towards you. So when that’s taking place, then the subsequent week, you’re like, nicely, shit, I’m much more behind on issues, there’s much more to this to do listing and there’s extra stress.

And that simply sends us into overwhelm. We don’t do something in any respect that entire factor. So once we are sorry, I’m very passionate, I’m not gonna apologize, I’m very obsessed with this, it’s so highly effective to learn to plan correctly as a perfectionist. That’s why I need to show you how to with this collection. That’s why I need to show you how to inside PGSD. And so I’m now dedicated to sharing what this episode is about, which is the to do listing and the place to how one can get clear, proper. So there’s no time left over for relaxation once we are working from a to do listing.

So we have now that lengthy to do listing, what tends to occur is it’s longer than we have now time for. And there’s all types of issues on it. And sometimes, as nicely, the duties that we have now on a to do listing have very obscure. So it’s issues like, you realize, Instagram submit, and it’s simply these obscure. Let me consider what else we may have on to do listing. It’s identical to these concepts of issues, it’s not clear sufficient that we may know precisely like if we needed to sit down at our desk to do one thing, what we have to begin with.

So as a substitute of being damaged down into particular outcomes that we have to create an every of these outcomes would add as much as the general consequence that we need to create. For instance, in case you are recording a podcast episode, as a substitute of say, for instance, you need to begin a podcast, as a substitute of getting it’s like begin podcast in your to do listing. That’s overwhelming, isn’t it? Possibly you could have it in your to do listing and you realize, and you retain pushing it off. Begin podcasts, your brains, like I don’t know what the fuck to do with that.

However if you happen to as a substitute have it’s consequence oriented chunked down, that is what we do in our energy planning, we chunk it down. So that you’re going to have for instance, half-hour to analysis, or possibly it’s an hour to analysis, how one can begin a podcast and even higher half-hour to entry your individual knowledge on what you could do. For those who’re going to begin a podcast, if you happen to’re going to offer another person recommendation on what to do, what would you inform them, after which to undergo every of these steps. So possibly step one is you create the identify for the podcast.

PS don’t overthink that you may change your identify on your podcast like I did, then possibly you’ll add a observe, brainstorm 10 episodes, then you definitely’re going to pick out three episodes to file then you definitely’re going to file them like I’m simply making stuff up. However we weren’t like that’s a lot simpler to observe once we break issues down like that clearly versus sometimes when we have now a to do listing, it tends to be like begin podcasts, that are brains like, “no thanks”, I’m not going to do this. So anyway, the place had been you planning on this means. And we have now this lengthy to do listing filled with obscure duties. And it’s for much longer than we even have time for. There’s by no means any time left over for relaxation.

And we are inclined to once we’re working from a to do listing be on this mentality, that we are going to relaxation when every part is completed and also you is perhaps within the perception that you simply’re simply the sort of one who prefers to relaxation and finds it straightforward to relaxation as soon as every part is full, and also you’re the sort of one who would slightly get every part accomplished and never relaxation, then who would slightly relaxation and have issues not be completed. And I get it. I see you. I see. However what I need to lovingly invite you to contemplate is that the rationale that you simply love getting like being this one who would simply slightly be busy than resting is since you simply must learn to really feel protected resting. And likewise the rationale that every part doesn’t get accomplished is since you aren’t resting.

It’s not this entire, like, nicely, I’ll get every part accomplished as soon as I relaxation. You’re not getting every part accomplished since you don’t relaxation. And that is why this entire collection is on clear relaxation, why that is one thing that we actually work on inside PGSD. And we actually take it significantly like not that it’s this heavy factor, however that it’s not one thing we simply gloss over. And I’ll do this if we get to it. Clear relaxation is an important a part of the apply of getting out of your individual means and getting right into a development mindset. And so if you happen to’re on this mentality of I’ll relaxation, as soon as I’ve gotten every part accomplished off my to do listing, it’s going to be very arduous, there’s nothing… Such as you’ll by no means be at that time the place every part is full.

And that’s particularly since you’re not resting. So when you find yourself working, you’re going to be working in about 50% capability at greatest. Even when like which may since you haven’t had a lot relaxation, which may really feel such as you’re 80%, possibly you’re 90%. You realize, it’s not 100. However it feels fairly up there as a result of that’s what you’re used to. And this was big for me, I used to love, I was somebody that the very first thing that will go after I was busy was sleep.

And I’d see sleep as one thing that was actually unproductive relaxation, sleep something like that tremendous unproductive. And what I spotted as soon as I gave myself permission to relaxation, and as soon as I began to prioritize getting a full night time’s relaxation, which implies about seven and a half hours. And I say that now, this time when I’ve youngsters. Effectively, that feels like a dream. However anyway, all of that to say that I seen relaxation as being one thing that was actually unproductive, which isn’t true. Relaxation is such a productive exercise. And I assumed that I used to be actually working at my greatest capability.

As soon as I began to get a full night time of sleep, or higher sleep like higher high quality sleep, if you happen to can’t get extra sleep, there are issues you are able to do to get higher high quality. Anyway, this isn’t about sleep, that is about like resting when you find yourself awake. However getting extra sleep is vital as nicely. However you could actually begin to see that your mind such as you don’t even but understand how a lot your mind is able to if you happen to’re not getting as a lot clear relaxation as you need to be. And later within the collection, I’m going to be speaking extra about how a lot clear relaxation to be getting.

I believe it’s within the subsequent episode truly I’m going to be going into how a lot to get. However you need to know now that the rationale you’re not getting every part accomplished, is as a result of once you’re working from to do lists, it’s tremendous arduous to get all these obscure, overwhelming duties accomplished. And you aren’t prefer it’s this vicious cycle. The place since you’re not resting, you’re not getting every part accomplished. And since you’re not getting every part accomplished, you’re not giving your self permission to relaxation. Hiya burnout that could be a recipe.

So the subsequent factor I need to point out on the subject of the to do listing and clear relaxation, is that getting much less accomplished. So wait, what am I writing? Getting much less accomplished so relaxation feels much less protected. Oh, sure. Okay. Sorry simply studying my observe that I’ve. So when you find yourself working from a to do listing, you’ll be getting much less accomplished, than when you find yourself planning correctly as a perfectionist. Once we are planning correctly, we’re bearing in mind our actual lives and the truth that we’re not motivated 24/7.

And the truth that we don’t have each second of the day to be productive. And even when we may bodily work on the enterprise and say sit at your laptop computer all day, daily, that your mind, particularly if you happen to’re doing brave needle movers. That’s one thing we’re actually I imply, I haven’t even acquired that in my notes right here. However needle movers are so vital.

These are the duties that transfer your small business ahead and PGSD we do quite a lot of teaching and serving to you to establish precisely what your needle movers are, no matter what sort of enterprise you could have, serving to you determine the place to focus your time with the intention to relaxation loads as a result of when you find yourself working, you’re doing the stuff that issues, not the stuff that simply protecting you busy and serving to you simply you realize, spin your wheels. So when you find yourself working from a to do listing and also you’re not planning correctly, you’ll be getting much less accomplished. Due to what I’ve already been speaking about that you’ll really feel so overwhelmed. You received’t know the place to begin. You’re busy on a regular basis, however you’re by no means getting every part accomplished.

And so it doesn’t really feel protected to relaxation. As a result of it feels such as you’re already to date behind. When you’ve got been feeling behind and such as you had been by no means on high of every part. Then I need to invite you to begin planning correctly and to hitch us in PGSD so you may learn to do this. So that’s another excuse that clear relaxation is basically arduous once you’re working from a to do listing. It’s simply going to be tougher for it to really feel protected once you aren’t being as productive as you could possibly be.

That’s to not say that you could be at this optimum degree of productiveness so that you can really feel protected and to not have guilt round relaxation. However it’s simpler. I imply, there’s one thing to be mentioned for it’s simpler to relaxation. If you actually know that in your small business time, even when that point is basically restricted, that you simply had been doing these items that issues that you simply had been doing it in a transparent and centered and intentional means, that’s truly going to make a distinction in your small business, that you simply aren’t spending all your time on these duties that don’t truly matter and aren’t shifting you ahead. It’s so a lot simpler to relaxation with out guilt when you realize that your small business time is getting used so properly since you are planning correctly.

However if you happen to’re working from this lengthy to do listing, and also you’re simply feeling overwhelmed and listing is getting longer and longer, it’s arduous to really feel protected resting, it’s arduous to not really feel responsible when you find yourself resting. Quantity three, once we are working from a to do listing, we don’t even acknowledge what we have now achieved. So in case you are on this mentality, that I’ll relaxation as soon as every part is completed, my guess is that you’ve got been getting issues accomplished. So I simply talked about how we get much less accomplished than we may very well be if we aren’t planning correctly, which is true, however you might be nonetheless getting issues accomplished.

And also you’re not truly capable of acknowledge that your mind isn’t registering that you’re doing issues to develop your small business, as a result of your mind is so centered on the 20 to do objects which might be unticked versus the six that you simply did take off. And so it’s actually arduous to get clear relaxation. When you find yourself feeling once more, such as you aren’t getting something accomplished and that you simply’re at all times behind it that you simply don’t have sufficient time for relaxation, you barely have sufficient time for every part as it’s not to mention including any additional relaxation. Like are you kidding me.

That’s what I hear so typically from perfectionist who’re working from a to do listing. And that is why we make the change to energy planning. As a result of it’s simply going to be a lot simpler to really feel protected resting. And a part of that when we have now energy planning. So we have now the ability hour, little tweaks, weekly assessment, a part of our weekly assessment is coaching our mind to note that we did accomplish issues. In case you are attending to the top of the week, and you’re feeling such as you acquired nothing accomplished.

This, I was right here each week that I’d get to the top of the week and really feel like I acquired nothing accomplished in any respect. And I simply felt to date behind. And that will put a lot stress on me. After which undoubtedly for positive after I was feeling stress, I couldn’t suppose clearly. After which I used to be so overwhelmed about what ought to I deal with, I don’t even know what to spend my time doing. And possibly I ought to do that. And let’s take a look at what this particular person is doing. And possibly I ought to do this too. And it does this entire factor.

And so that you simply need to, to know, that is all simply planning issues that may be solved, which is such a stupendous factor. And once more, why I actually need to invite you into PGSD, as a result of that’s the greatest place to be studying how one can plan correctly. However once we’re doing that weekly assessment, we’re coaching our mind to really discover, hey, possibly proper now, my expertise is that I had an unproductive week as a result of my mind is simply educated to see what didn’t get accomplished.

However once we take that point, and we undergo the method for the weekly assessment that’s inside PGSD, that you will note that you simply did do issues and you’ll actually begin to once more, create security, it’s a phrase that’s going to return up loads, you’ll really feel safer resting as a result of your mind will truly see we did do issues and it’s not that okay, it’s not you realize, I’m protected as a result of I did do issues and that signifies that I’m productive and being productive signifies that I’m lovable and all of the issues.

It’s simply realizing that when you may once more, belief your self to get shit accomplished when the time comes and to belief your self and to know that your small business time is definitely including up. One thing in case you are sacrificing for instance time along with your kids or along with your partner or along with your pet or no matter to be engaged on your small business. Then it’s simply so useful on your mind to have this time on the finish of the week to see it’s including up it’s working. I’m not behind. And I is perhaps within the messy center and figuring it out. However it’s working and it’s going to add as much as one thing I’m going to get to the place I need to go.

As like we perfectionist we aren’t nice at celebrating ourselves. It’s a apply and the weekly assessment actually helps with that. Once we’re working from an countless to do listing. We don’t have fun ourselves, we at all times really feel behind and we don’t acknowledge that we are literally getting issues accomplished. So the fourth factor I need to point out is that once we are working from a to do listing. We don’t have any time or any alternative sorry to overachieve, on what we had got down to do. And we don’t have any alternative to have an early mark, within the sense that we don’t have the power to say, Okay, I acquired every part accomplished at this time.

Like, if you happen to’re working from a to do listing, do you ever really feel like that I acquired every part accomplished, possibly as soon as a month, you’re like, I’m insanely productive. I’m a badass, take a look at me go, I acquired every part accomplished, and you are feeling superb. However then the opposite 30 days of the month, you’re feeling such as you had been to date behind, we need to have it’s. And that is what occurs once you’re planning correctly, we need to have it’s that you’ve got the possibility to finish every part in a day that you simply had set out.

As a result of once you’re planning correctly, you might be doing all of your planning in a means that you may truly observe by on. And this helps us obtain a lot extra, it is perhaps a bit scary at first to see like, oh, there’s much less right here on my calendar than I’ve on my to do listing and I need to be actually productive. However to know like, that’s stuff in your to do listing it wasn’t all getting accomplished. And when you find yourself having it in your calendar.

And once we’re making a little bit tweak, so simply gone into this as nicely, simply so if you happen to’re like, What is that this energy planning, inform me extra about it. So intimately in depth, we educate it inside PGSD.

So on the subject of our energy planning, once we are doing our Energy Hour in the beginning of the week, we’re actually occupied with what are our needle movers that pertains to our development objective that we have now for the subsequent 12 months and inside PGSD, we’ll assessment that objective and ensure it’s actually set on the optimum degree on your development. In order that might be your North Star. And that’s so vital.

On the subject of determining your needle movers what you need to deal with along with your time versus what you shouldn’t, that’s all filtered by what your development objective is. So you really want to have that to be planning correctly. So you could have your development objective. And when you find yourself doing all of your Energy Hour, you might be determining what your needle movers are, and also you’re placing them in your calendar, and also you’re placing them in your calendar after you schedule your commitments. And after you schedule your clear relaxation, then you definitely put in your needle movers with the time that’s left over.

So as a substitute of this mentality, like I used to be speaking about in the beginning of the episode, the place we’ll relaxation in left over time, once we are energy planning, we’ll like do work within the leftover time that we aren’t resting. And we have to do it that means. As a result of if you consider for instance, with budgeting and saving cash, if you happen to save what’s left over, there’s nothing left over since you’ve simply spent all of it. However once you to begin with put away what you need to save, and then you definitely spend the remainder.

That’s how one can truly save up the cash. So we do the identical factor on the subject of clear relaxation that we put apart the clear relaxation. Realizing that our perfectionist mind doesn’t need to have the remainder. We’re the individuals who’s like relaxation is just not the reward. Holding on working and being busy is what we need to preserve doing. So it could possibly really feel like relaxation is a little bit of a punishment. And we have to unlearn that. And one of the best ways to unlearn that’s to apply clear relaxation, and develop a relationship with it.

The place it feels protected to relaxation the place you don’t really feel like your worthiness is in danger when you find yourself resting. So we need to be planning out our week the place we’re placing our commitments. So it is perhaps household stuff, it is perhaps possibly for working in a job, it is perhaps that job, no matter it’s, you’ve acquired your commitments and stuff you could don’t associated to your small business. And as nicely with that it is perhaps possibly you could have calls or various things which might be already scheduled for a sure time, like something that’s sort of set in stone.

And I additionally has a dedication put in like my exercises and issues like that, then clear relaxation, then it involves the enterprise duties. And the fantastic thing about that is that since you’re truly planning in a means that you may observe by on that. And this occurred. Like many days this week, I labored three days every week. So the 2 earlier days on this week that I had been working, the place I used to be capable of end my day a bit early. As a result of I had listed out precisely what I wished to do in that day.

It was one thing I may truly observe by on it will require focus, braveness, all of these issues. I do know for me from my weekly opinions that I’ve probably the most brainpower within the morning. So within the morning, I’m doing my focus duties. Within the afternoon, I’m doing duties the place I’m checking in with my crew, posting on Instagram, that sort of factor. And so I had listed out in my calendar what I wanted to do the clear consequence.

So there’s no confusion in any respect or overwhelmed from my mind, I simply know what must get accomplished. After which I used to be ready to determine as a result of it’s centered on the result, that’s what we put within the calendar. As a substitute of like an exercise, we’re centered on the end result we need to have. So once you do this, you had been capable of have your mind give you options that you simply wouldn’t have seen earlier than. And do issues oftentimes extra shortly, and minimize out quite a lot of busy work that means. So I used to be ready to do this and end sooner than I had deliberate.

And as a substitute of bringing in duties from a future day, as a result of I don’t belief myself to be productive once more, that is what occurs once we’re working from a to do listing. We’re like, Oh, my God, I’m so productive at this time. I ought to get extra accomplished, as a result of I actually need to capitalize on this. And that’s actually our saying, I don’t belief myself to be productive later as a result of it’s not regular for me to be productive. So I should be tremendous productive now.

However when you find yourself planning correctly, you may belief your self to be productive on all your work days, that doesn’t imply nicely now these productiveness robots. However you can even belief that in case you are, I don’t know, if you happen to’re actually scuffling with power, possibly you could have a well being difficulty, possibly one thing’s give you your youngsters, possibly you’re simply not feeling it, that you may preserve your plans workable, you can also make these little tweaks with the intention to preserve following by along with your plans.

However I used to be capable of get every part accomplished that I had in my energy planning on that day. And I used to be capable of end early and like actually have a way of completion, which I’ve daily due to energy planning. However I used to be capable of have an early mark, and my mind was capable of get the reward of attending to be let off early, like let loose of faculty early, as a result of I did all of the issues that I had deliberate to do. And I can belief myself to be productive later.

I can belief, like all my I’ve three work days every week, I can belief that when that point comes, I’m capable of do the work that I must do to construct my enterprise to one million {dollars}. And I’m capable of simply end early and really feel protected doing that. After which in my time that I’m not working, I’m capable of take pleasure in that. And that doesn’t imply that it’s like I by no means take into consideration enterprise. Like generally in my clear relaxation. And I’ll discuss this extra within the fifth half the place I discuss what I rise up to my clear relaxation, I might be listening to enterprise podcasts or doing issues like that.

So it’s not… It doesn’t need to be this all or nothing black or white factor. However I don’t have this sense of I needs to be doing extra or I didn’t do sufficient. As a result of on the finish of the day, I at all times go into my calendar, I spend a few minutes doing my little tweaks and ensuring that every part on my calendar, like my calendar displays what acquired accomplished that day. So I’ll modify issues roughly talking in order that it displays how a lot time it truly took me to do sure issues.

That means, after I’m doing my weekly assessment, I can look again and I can see patterns, and I can see okay, nicely after I do a job and that always it takes me means longer than if I do the identical job within the morning and various things like that. So it displays what truly acquired accomplished. And if I didn’t get every part accomplished, which undoubtedly occurs at instances, then I’ve buffer time deliberate in to my calendar throughout my work hours, in order that I can drag and drop issues into that buffer time. So I’m already anticipating that I might need miscalculated how lengthy one thing will take or how a lot power I’d have or no matter.

And so I’ve added buffer time in my calendar throughout my energy hour to account for that. And if every part will get accomplished, I’m capable of take that buffer time as relaxation and provides myself much more relaxation than I had deliberate. However once you’re working from a to do listing, it’s actually difficult. To really feel like I acquired every part accomplished. As I mentioned, we would have a type of days as soon as a month, 12 instances a 12 months, that isn’t sufficient. Like we should be feeling that means daily.

We’re accountable for creating that feeling for ourselves, we have now the ability to create that feeling for ourselves. Simply think about having the ability to go to mattress each night time feeling like I did every part I wanted to do at this time I’m on observe. Like that could be a feeling that we’re creating. And when you find yourself in that place, it’s a lot simpler to have self belief to have the ability to put your self on the market do the brave issues. To say no to belongings you need to say no to love all that completely different stuff.

It’s simply it actually creates this baseline this basis so that you can reside your life the way in which you need to reside it have your small business the way in which you need to have it to not have stress or burnout from your small business. Seep over into each space of your life, if your small business is at the moment affecting your relationships, that you simply’re actually confused once you’re you realize, exterior of your small business time and however you’re considering like I needs to be working, I needs to be working or I’m behind on every part. Or it’s not working. I’m by no means gonna get there, that’s going to influence your relationships. After which that impacts your small business as nicely. Prefer it simply we actually need to be prioritizing clear relaxation.

Placing that clear relaxation in our calendar earlier than our needle movers. Realizing that having constraint on how lengthy we have now to get shit accomplished goes to assist us be extra inventive and extra productive and actually get our mind working and will probably be ready to do this our brains will be capable to creatively downside clear up and determine how one can obtain our objectives in much less time when it has had time to relaxation and recuperate and recharge. It’s acquired a full battery. It’s not simply working at 50% 30%. We’re capable of actually suppose successfully to self coach successfully to create what we need to create in as little time as potential.

Once we are giving our mind the possibility to have a relaxation, it’s additionally a lot simpler to do brave issues when your mind can see a lightweight on the finish of the tunnel and is aware of {that a} relaxation is arising. But when it’s like cool, I’m going to do that brave factor. After which she needs me to do that different brave factor, after which this brave factor, after which this factor and this boring, tedious factor. And like, Hell, no, I’m simply gonna go scroll by Instagram. So when we have now relaxation, we’re giving our mind that break, it actually needs and desires and deserves.

And that makes us a lot extra productive within the enterprise, and having a transparent finish to your day and a transparent starting as nicely. So that is the opposite factor speaking in regards to the starting of the day, I imply, this, all of this may very well be an entire completely different podcast episode, I may file so many about all this stuff that I’m speaking about. However to only briefly contact on it right here, that if you happen to get up feeling behind, you simply have a planning downside, you simply must learn to plan correctly as perfectionist.

And that’s what you do inside PGSD. However actually, that’s the fact that once you get up feeling such as you’re already behind. That’s only a signal that there are some changes that should be made along with your planning. That’s no solution to reside, it’s not going that can assist you be extra productive. And we need to have you ever beginning your small business time. Possibly that’s possibly you’re employed. When you’ve got a job, like I, after I was working in accounting, I’d work on my enterprise earlier than I went to my job, I’d get up early to do this I’ve like an hour.

As a result of I simply discovered working on the finish of the day didn’t work for me, my mind was simply accomplished on the finish of the day of labor, I had no inventive power left, possibly you might be working throughout nap instances. Or possibly you could have a full day of labor that you simply’re capable of do no matter your scenario is, we need to be sure that that day is starting at a time that’s greatest for you. Once we’re working from a to do listing, we’re not occupied with that we’re like, oh, I want to begin taking off shit as a result of there’s a lot to do.

So when you find yourself energy planning, you’ll resolve when your day begins, and you utilize your weekly assessment, and your little tweaks to mirror on once you work greatest. However for instance, for myself, I’ve realized by energy planning that I actually work greatest after I’m doing my most intense considering within the morning. And that I experimented for a couple of 12 months with doing gradual mornings, like I had heard about folks, you realize, you simply ease into the day with this private growth routine and all of those various things.

After which sort of that is earlier than I had Lydia and after I was working 4 or 5 days every week. And I’d are you aware, learn a e-book for half an hour and meditate and exercise and all these various things. After which I get began at round 11am. And that didn’t work for me. I imply, I used to be nonetheless doing issues. However I can see, after I look again that I get a lot extra accomplished and luxuriate in my day a lot extra after I get in. And I do my considering early. And I do the brave duties earlier within the day.

After which I end up ideally like 2:30 – 3 o’clock, I end up after which I can do any stuff after that. And it appears a little bit bit completely different in the meanwhile with the workdays that I’ve and the work setup, and issues like that. However after I was when earlier than I had Lydia, and that wasn’t a consider it that for me, and perfect day 830 to 2:30, slightly than 11 until six or one thing like that. And so you’ll determine what that appears like for you. And you’ll if you happen to preserve saying to your self, I’m going to begin at 8:30am, and it’s 9am.

And also you haven’t began your day, as a substitute of making an attempt to love push towards that resistance to get began at 830 to only give your self permission to begin, for instance, at 930. After which you may take pleasure in your entire morning, not feeling responsible or behind. However to only know, when 930 comes, I do know precisely like my mind is aware of precisely what it must do at this time. And it’s inside its energy to do this. And there’s a lightweight on the finish of the tunnel, and I’ve acquired a lunch break. And it’s prefer it’s all set as much as work in my favor.

And I can simply take pleasure in my morning or possibly you simply need to work within the evenings, no matter it’s for you that it is possible for you to to create a transparent begin and a transparent finish to your day and to offer your self the possibility to really feel achieved. And which is barely going to make you’re feeling extra productive and be extra productive. If you really feel achieved. If you really feel such as you’ve acquired every part accomplished that you simply wanted to do this goes to breed productiveness. And so we need to do this. And it’s simply so arduous to do this once you’re working from a to do listing.

It’s simply virtually not possible to overachieve in your day, and never within the sense that I used to be speaking about earlier than making an attempt to capitalize in your productiveness. We don’t need to do this once we’re capitalizing on productiveness. We’re additional solidifying the self picture that we’re not somebody who’s productive and once we imagine we’re not somebody who’s productive, we have now to make use of willpower motivation to be productive. And that is once we’re working in spurts of motivation and it doesn’t final, we as a substitute need to be creating this self picture that after all, it’s regular for me to have a productive day. It’s so regular.

And so I don’t must capitalize on this as a result of it’s regular for me. So I’m simply going to wrap up, I’m going to get accomplished early. And my mind is aware of if we determine a greater faster means to do that. We’ll have an early mark at this time. After which I can belief that particularly as a result of my mind has rested on the subject of my subsequent interval of labor, I will be centered and get shit accomplished. So the fifth cause I need to point out is that when you find yourself working from a to do listing, you aren’t creating self belief, that you may be productive. So I’ve sort of simply talked about this, truly.

However that is I simply need to underline it, if you happen to’re working in spurts of motivation if you happen to’re stopping and beginning, and in case you are always feeling like nicely, I don’t know after I’ll be productive once more, as a result of I’ve an actual procrastination downside. It’s a planning downside. However I’ve an actual procrastination downside. So I simply want to ensure I benefit from this inspiration, then it’s only a planning downside. And that’s partly attributable to you working from to do lists, which goes to get your perfectionist mindset working towards you from the get goes. So we need to be doing energy planning.

That is what I educate in depth inside PGSD. It’s the place you’re going to get the assist the place you’re going to get the complete instruments and every part that you could know the neighborhood.

All of the issues PGSD personal podcast to have you ever hearken to the teaching name replays on the go like, it’s actually about going past mental information about what clear relaxation is like this, if you happen to’re considering like, this sounds good, I want extra clear relaxation, I need to invite you in. However let’s discuss simply shortly recapping the three steps of energy planning and planning correctly. So that’s your energy hour, your little tweaks and your weekly assessment.

So in your energy hour, you might be placing your needle shifting duties into your digital calendar. And your needle shifting duties are primarily based on what your development objective is, then we have now little tweaks. So all through the week, you make little changes to your calendar. And I prefer to put a little bit checkmark emoji subsequent to issues as I’m going by, I get that satisfaction of ticking off a to do listing. And it’s it’s much more satisfying, as a result of to my shade coded calendar.

And I simply get to the top of the week after I’m doing my weekly assessment. And I simply see all these texts as a result of there’s no crosses. Prefer it’s all textual content as a result of I’ve simply up to date it to mirror what truly acquired accomplished after which put a tick subsequent to it, no matter no matter it was, even when it’s a job that took me an hour greater than I had deliberate, I nonetheless have a tick subsequent to it. So it’s gonna assist your mind in that sense, like our mind loves accumulation, and needs to see all of those checkmarks.

So it actually helps with that, you’ll nonetheless get the satisfaction of the checkmark when you find yourself energy planning. And we need to have your little tweaks. You might be always updating your calendar so that you simply by no means fall behind on it. And as I discussed, you could have issues like buffer time in your calendar, with the intention to drag and drop issues and alter them round. This is the reason we use a digital calendar in addition to against a paper planner.

Paper planners are lovely, and I really like the thought of them. However it’s actually arduous, particularly if you happen to’re a perfectionist and also you don’t like issues wanting messy, that you really want to have the ability to change your plans and be actually particular and detailed about issues which frequently in paper planner, there’s not sufficient house to be as particular as you could or to love reject the order of duties or to slip one thing to the subsequent day or drop it into the subsequent week, issues like that.

So we need to be working out of your digital calendar, making these little changes so that you simply’re by no means falling behind. After which on the subject of your weekly assessment, that’s when you find yourself reflecting on the week you’re looking at what you’ve acquired to perform your aha moments, your realizations, what isn’t working, what have you ever been avoiding what your masts are like all of that sort of factor.

And you might be then particularly when you find yourself making the three month dedication to energy planning and you might be working towards energy planning, I’m actually seeing it as a apply that over time particularly like when you get to be greater than 4 weeks into it, you’ll start to see patterns and within the subsequent episode I’m going to be speaking about a few of the patterns to look out for and how one can plan out your clear relaxation and what that’s going to seem like for you.

So undoubtedly tune in to the subsequent episode if you wish to hear extra about that. However your weekly assessment is an important a part of planning correctly when we have now our perfectionism handbrake on. We don’t like to judge as a result of we could be so merciless to ourselves and disgrace ourselves so badly that we actually simply sort of scared to have a look at what the week was like in case we discover out that it was a complete shitshow.

And the gorgeous factor that at all times occurred and I really like seeing this. So in PGSD, we have now the persistence log part within the PGSD discussion board, which is the place you may submit your, your weekly assessment and your updates and the highs and the lows and every part in between. And so many instances every entry within the persistence log will say, I actually don’t need to be doing this Weekly Evaluate, however I’m going to do it anyway. And I simply don’t really feel like I get something accomplished.

However I’m simply going to belief it and do it. After which by the top of it, they’re like, Okay, I notice I truly had an unimaginable week. And listed below are my classes from the week and I’m feeling so empowered for subsequent week. And it’s simply the ability of getting an opportunity to mirror and it actually helps us to develop that development mindset and to be keen to judge with out having to imply one thing about ourselves if we see one thing that we don’t like or that we all know higher than to be doing. In order that’s a little bit overview once more, of energy planning how one can plan correctly as a perfectionist clear relaxation is an important a part of planning correctly.

For those who aren’t placing clear relaxation in your calendar, you aren’t planning correctly so anyway, I’m gonna wrap this episode up. The subsequent one goes to be on suggestions that can assist you plan out your clear relaxation, how a lot you need to be getting. Within the episode after that we’re going to be sharing a training name that was inside PGSD that’s going that can assist you perceive what counts as clear relaxation and what doesn’t. I eat this clear relaxation must really feel recharging and do must really feel energized after it for to counts that should be fully freed from guilt for it to rely like that sort of factor. And the fifth episode on this collection I’m going to speak about what I rise up to after I’m taking clear relaxation and the way my clear relaxation apply has developed.

Outro

So I hope you could have discovered this episode useful. I do know that I’ve shared loads on this episode. Know that if you wish to be taught all of the steps of how planning you need to set your development objective you need to be planning correctly getting the clear relaxation PGSD is one of the best place to do this.

So I need to invite you in when the doorways open they are going to be open at 6am New York time on the 4th of April and they’ll shut at 11:59pm New York time on the eleventh of April 2025. samlaurabrown.com/pgsd is the place you may go to seek out out extra data to hitch the waitlist and when the doorways open to enroll and be a part of us. So I hope you might be having a stupendous day and I’ll speak to you within the subsequent episode.