[Part 1 of 5] Perfectionists get in their very own approach once they comply with the identical planning recommendation as everybody else. That’s why I’ve recorded a 5-part planning collection for the podcast that’ll enable you to plan correctly as a perfectionist.
This planning collection is for perfectionists who write and rewrite lengthy to-do lists of enterprise duties they by no means begin, fall behind as a result of they underestimate how lengthy issues will take and have notebooks filled with concepts they haven’t achieved something with.
This episode (half 1 of the Planning Collection) is all in regards to the variations between procrasti-planning and planning correctly as a perfectionist. This may enable you to perceive the place you’ve been going incorrect with planning so you are able to do one thing about it.
Doorways shut Friday: That is our last enrollment of the yr for Perfectionists Getting Shit Finished. Once you join PGSD, you’ll get immediate entry to the Energy Planning Course so you can begin planning correctly as a perfectionist straight away and begin 2026 with PGSD by your facet. Doorways shut at 11:59pm EST this Friday, 21 November. To enroll right this moment go to samlaurabrown.com/pgsd.
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Introduction
Hello and welcome to a different episode of The Perfectionism Mission. A podcast filled with perfectionism recommendation for entrepreneurs. My identify is Sam Laura Brown, I assist entrepreneurs launch their perfectionism handbrake, to allow them to get out of their very own approach and construct a satisfying and worthwhile enterprise. I’m the founding father of the Perfectionists Getting Shit Finished group teaching program, which is in any other case often known as PGSD. And for much more perfectionism recommendation that can assist you with your enterprise, you’ll be able to comply with me on Instagram @perfectionismproject.
Sam Laura Brown (Customized introduction)
You will love this. I simply know that is going to be excellent timing that I’m releasing these episodes right this moment. So what I’m doing is I’m releasing the 5 hottest episodes of this podcast, which is the Planning collection on learn how to plan correctly as a perfectionist, whether or not you’ve got listened earlier than, whether or not that is going to be your first time listening, you probably have been getting in your personal approach, in your enterprise, in the event you’ve been having a tough time exhibiting up, if you realize that you could possibly be extra profitable in the event you might simply really comply with by with the plans that you simply make. You understand what to do. You’re simply not doing it. This collection is simply going to be the most effective factor for you. So I need to invite you to hearken to all 5 components of this collection. They will be profoundly useful. And I additionally need to invite you to affix us inside my program. Perfectionist Getting Shit Finished. So we are literally within the final enrollment of this yr, so doorways can be closing at 11:59pm jap time on Friday the twenty first of November. In order that’s just a few days away, and I need to invite you inside, as a result of initially, there’s clearly by no means a greater time to get out of your personal approach than the current.
There’s simply with the ability to create the compound impact and like be in that momentum earlier than the yr is even over. I do know we love to attend until January and all of that, however what if, as an alternative of ready for January to start out getting out of your personal approach, you have been out of your personal approach and on that path by January, in order that come January, you’re not ranging from a standstill. That’s what I need to invite you into in December, we additionally do an annual reflection as a neighborhood the yr in assessment, and we do planning for the next yr. So I need to invite you to be there for that, whether or not it’s being there dwell with us, doing the replay, regardless of your time zone, doing that’s going to set you up for the most effective 2026 and likewise, once you join Perfectionist Getting Shit Finished, you’ll get immediate entry to every thing, together with the ability planning course, which you’ll be able to watch begin to end in a day after which be planning correctly as a perfectionist, together with the assist and the unimaginable neighborhood and different instruments which are there for you inside PGSD as effectively. So I hope you get pleasure from this collection, and I need to invite you to affix us inside PGSD, earlier than the doorways shut at 11:59pm jap time this Friday, the twenty first of November, you’ll be able to go to samlaurabrown.com/pgsd, the hyperlink can be down there for you within the present notes to go and join right this moment and be a part of us inside.
Sam Laura Brown
So this episode is the primary in a 5 half collection that I’m placing right here on the podcast that can assist you plan correctly as a perfectionist. So let’s simply shortly discuss what meaning to plan correctly as a perfectionist. So planning correctly means that you’re planning which are straightforward to comply with by on. I do know this will sound a bit of scary at first, since you would possibly suppose, Effectively, I’m not going to be very productive, if it’s straightforward to do the issues that I had in my plan. I’m going to be speaking about that afterward on this collection, belief me, however you can be planning in a approach that solves your follow-through downside with out you having to have extra willpower or be extra motivated.
So proper now, you is perhaps feeling such as you’re simply not the sort of one that can comply with by together with your plans. And in the event you do, you’re not the sort of one that can try this persistently. So proper now, in the event you make plans who say you sit down each week, and also you write a plan for the week, and also you’re doing that for a couple of weeks in a row, you is perhaps considering, how lengthy is that this going to final? How lengthy is it going to be earlier than I fall off the wagon? Once more, and again to my previous methods. In order that’s an indication you’re not planning correctly, I’m going to be speaking about extra of them in a minute. However we need to have you ever planning in a approach the place it’s straightforward to comply with by, which makes it straightforward to construct that self-trust that you simply want so as to be decisive in your enterprise that you simply want so as to have the ability to deal with failure. For those who don’t have self-trust, these issues are going to be very difficult. And it’s going to be nearly unimaginable to have the ability to construct a profitable enterprise.
Once you’re planning correctly. You’re additionally getting your perfectionist mindset. In your facet, you might be studying learn how to actually see that deep perfectionism work that you could do. And also you’re in a position to try this work with the assistance of your planning instrument, as a result of it will enable you to discover, the place are you continue to getting pulled in direction of overwhelm. The place are you continue to procrastinating? The place are you in that or not within the mindset, you’re going to be planning in a approach that brings up your stage of self-awareness. So you are able to do that work in your perfectionism to get in that progress mindset and get out of your personal approach. So that you’re actually exhibiting up totally, and residing into that potential that you realize that you’ve got as a enterprise proprietor, as a result of my guess is in the event you’re something like PGSD is that you realize that you’re meant to be doing greater than together with your life than simply going by the motions and ticking the containers, and doing what everybody else is doing.
And but, there’s something that that’s making you get in your personal approach. And there’s this hole proper now between who you see your self as being and the way you’re exhibiting up in your day-to-day. And it’s so irritating. I’ve been there, I’ve been there for therefore a few years, I used to be in that place the place I felt like there’s a lot extra for me than being on this accounting job, and simply doing what everybody thinks I ought to do. And but, I’m not capable of get myself to do the issues that I must do in my enterprise. So I can really dwell the life that I need to dwell. And if somebody had come and advised me, “Hey, you really simply have a planning downside”, such as you’re simply not planning in a approach that works to your mindset and its serving to you to comply with by simply and serving to you to finally get out of that perfectionist mindset and into the expansion mindset. It could have been so useful, it will have been utterly life-changing for me, for somebody to have advised me that however nobody did.
I needed to actually piece it collectively and determine it out and simply actually see how essential it’s that as perfectionists we’re planning correctly. So that features purpose setting, that features planning in a approach that makes follow-through straightforward. So in PGSD, we train energy planning, and likewise clear relaxation. And when you’ve got the three of these mixed, and also you’re doing it in a approach that will get your perfectionist mindset in your facet, sufficient that you are able to do the work to get out of that perfectionist mindset. Then being productive is very easy, like not procrastinating and never feeling overwhelmed. And getting out of burnout. These issues change into straightforward, and truly following by persistently.
And with the ability to belief your self to make selections and making these selections with out second-guessing, with out going again on them, without having to outsource that. So that you’re at all times wanting a trainer or a mentor or a good friend or somebody on YouTube to let you know what to do. You’re capable of really make these selections. That each one begins with planning correctly. As a perfectionist, so that’s what this five-part collection goes that can assist you do. I’m additionally going to be inviting you to affix us in PGSD.
So all through this collection, I’m additionally going to be telling you ways PGSD may help you apply every thing that you simply’re gonna be studying on this collection and actually do the deep, intentional work that’s actually required to get out of your personal approach. And that is one thing that comes up rather a lot, I get lots of questions from individuals saying, effectively, I like the podcast, I can so relate to every thing you discuss. I’m simply considering that I ought to apply every thing I’ve realized without cost on the podcast earlier than signing up for PGSD. I’m going to be speaking about {that a} bit later. And going into that I’ve already talked about procrasti-learning on this podcast and the way that falls into that realm. However what I actually need to invite you to think about is that the individuals who relate to this podcast probably the most, change into our most profitable PGSD’s it’s not that, okay, they love the podcast. And so meaning they don’t want PGSD.
PGSD actually lets you really apply and implement and dwell, what you’ve got realized by this podcast. It’s a distinction between understanding and with the ability to inform a good friend about perfectionism, or with the ability to sort of, you realize, I perhaps have some self-awareness, and you’ve got in all probability had a couple of wins that you simply’ve been capable of get out of your personal approach a bit and begin one thing you perhaps hadn’t been capable of begin earlier than. And that sort of factor, which is superb. And I like that the podcast helps individuals try this. However in PGSD, we’re about really residing these ideas. And it’s messy, it’s difficult. It requires assist and training, and neighborhood, and all these various things that aren’t supplied by this podcast. So I’m going to be telling you extra about PGSD. It’s as much as you whether or not or not you select to affix us. And I’m going to be actually sharing rather a lot on this five-part collection about learn how to plan correctly as a perfectionist. So no matter whether or not you select to join PGSD now, you select to enroll later, you select by no means to enroll, that you simply’re in such a greater place this yr, in the case of your enterprise. As a result of in the event you aren’t planning correctly, in the event you aren’t planning in the best way that helps you do your perfectionism work, and likewise in a approach that makes it straightforward to comply with by, then it doesn’t matter what your Instagram technique is, it doesn’t matter what your technique is for just about something, since you gained’t be capable to get your self to do it. And also you gained’t be capable to even in the event you try this, do it persistently, you’ll maintain falling-off the wagon and beginning over once more. And also you gained’t really be capable to expertise the advantages of all the issues that you’ve got realized since you’re not capable of do them.
All of it begins with planning. In order that’s what we’re going to be speaking about on this collection. That’s why that is the subject. So let’s discuss on this episode about planning vs. procrasti-planning. So once we take into consideration procrasti-planning, I would like you to consider it in two methods. The primary is that procrasti-planning is when planning turns into a type of procrastination. So we perfectionists, love planning. And once we’re not planning correctly, we find yourself with this love-hate relationship with planning the place we love sitting down and determining what we’re going to do. And but we hate planning. As a result of once we’re not planning correctly, we sort of secretly know already, we’re not gonna be capable to comply with by with these plans that we’re simply gonna find yourself feeling unhealthy as a result of we’re thus far behind. And there’s solely issues that we haven’t achieved. And what we will actually do when our perfectionism handbrake is on is that we plan so lengthy. We rewrite to-do lists, we attempt to get so nitty-gritty with the element. We predict if I can simply have this excellent plan, then every thing else can be straightforward.
Now you would possibly suppose I’ve simply been saying that, that you probably have this excellent plan, then every thing else is simple. Once you’re planning correctly as a perfectionist, you might be planning in a approach that makes follow-through straightforward. Following by entails doing issues that may not work. It entails being brave and scared. It entails placing your self on the market once you is perhaps judged. And I do know you in all probability don’t need to hear me say that. You need to hear me say that in the event you’re planning correctly as a perfectionist, you’re making the correct plans which are assured to work and get you the precise outcomes that you really want. However that’s what we’re excited about once we procrasti-planning. We try to make the correct plans. In order that we by no means need to expertise failure. And the disgrace that may include that. We by no means need to expertise success. We don’t need to be too profitable. As a result of that may imply that we aren’t relatable anymore to the individuals in our lives. After which we would really feel disconnected, deserted, ashamed. So we’re making an attempt to, like, consistently stroll this line between failure and success. So we’re profitable sufficient, however not too profitable. After which we haven’t failed, however at the very least we will relate to individuals in our life who’s struggling.
So it’s actually exhausting to be making an attempt to stroll that line. However that’s going into this procrasti-planning, that’s a part of it, that we’re actually making an attempt to plan in a approach the place we will keep away from any sort of adverse emotion as a result of we don’t belief ourselves to have the ability to expertise that we’re making an attempt to keep away from making the incorrect determination, as a result of we don’t belief ourselves to make the correct one. So additionally, we will spend a lot time planning, and re-planning, and re-planning and planning to plan that we don’t even have any time to do the issues and it will possibly really feel like we are literally spending lots of time on our enterprise due to how a lot thought we’re placing into planning. But when we’re not executing, we’re not implementing, we’re not doing the issues. We’re really probably not engaged on a enterprise. I’m not saying that tremendous considering and considering at a excessive stage. And all of that isn’t a part of constructing a enterprise, it most undoubtedly is. However as soon as that goes on for too lengthy, it turns into a type of procrastination. In order that’s a technique we will take into consideration procrasti-planning. The opposite approach is that we’re planning in a approach that stops us from taking motion. So it allows procrastination.
So let me simply make this distinction a bit of bit extra clear. So once we are planning in a approach that stops us from taking motion, that may imply you’re not really spending that lengthy planning, perhaps you’re not even planning it in any respect, as a result of in the event you don’t even suppose you comply with by together with your plan. So why hassle. However you might be planning in a approach that places you within the Oh and I believe mindset with out you even realizing it, that makes you’re feeling overwhelmed. That’s making you procrastinate, that’s making you burned out. And also you is perhaps considering that you simply’re planning correctly, since you’re following all the recommendation on the market about planning and learn how to do and I’m going to be giving a really particular instance in a second of some actually frequent recommendation round planning and why it doesn’t work for a perfectionist just like the items which are lacking.
But when we return to this definition of procrasti-planning, it’s when planning turns into a type of procrastination. So we’re doing for therefore lengthy, that we’re not taking any motion, there’s no time left for that. Or we’re planning in a approach that stops us from taking motion that turns that perfectionism handbrake on. And this will actually occur with out us intending for any of that to occur. And once more, this isn’t as a result of there’s something incorrect with you. It’s simply since you’ve been following recommendation that doesn’t work for a perfectionist, so much less about among the indicators that your procrasti-planning, in case you’re not clear but, whether or not that is you now, I simply need to preface this with, in the event you can relate to every thing I say, don’t really feel unhealthy about it.
Self-awareness is so essential. That’s the very first thing that you simply want so as to have the ability to change. And likewise the truth that I can articulate it so clearly means, A. I’ve skilled it, B. you’re not the one one. As a result of if it was solely you, nobody would be capable to clarify it in a approach that truly clicked with you. So listed here are among the indicators that you simply’re procrasti-planning. The primary is feeling responsible, since you haven’t achieved sufficient, despite the fact that you’re at all times working. So that you at all times really feel behind. And but you’re at all times doing issues for your enterprise, you’re making a protracted to do listing, however then you definitely don’t even know which activity to work on first. So you find yourself doing nothing in any respect, you’re rewriting your plans from scratch, since you fell too far behind by the third day. So perhaps you sit down, you do that massive planning session. And also you comply with by completely for a few days. However you’ll be able to’t maintain it. You fall behind then the listing of unfinished duties is simply so lengthy, that it turns into overwhelming and also you simply scrap it, you wipe the entire thing. And also you rewrite it. You’re deleting the Instagram app of your cellphone to attempt to cease your self from procrastinating. So that you sort of at that time the place you’re simply making an attempt to.. like that need to procrastinate could be very robust. And also you’re simply making an attempt to do each trick and tip and tactic you’ll be able to to attempt to get your self to cease. So perhaps you’ve used these web blocking apps, perhaps you’ve got use an app in your cellphone, for instance, the place there’s this one which I used to make use of really, like a tree grows in your display. After which in the event you exit the app, the tree dies. And the thought is you’ll be able to’t take a look at the rest whereas this app is open in your cellphone. So that you is perhaps doing issues like that the place you might be simply making an attempt to get your self to cease procrastinate. You’re sort of doing the equal of in the event you’re making an attempt to eat wholesome, then you definitely take away all of the junk meals from the home, you are attempting to try this in the case of procrastination, you’re making an attempt to be targeted by regardless of, keen your option to be there. Since you don’t know learn how to cease procrastinating. A part of that’s you’re simply planning in a approach that makes it straightforward to procrastinate, we’re gonna go into that extra on this collection.
So that you’re working by additional hours, once you advised your companion, you’d solely want 5 extra minutes. So it is perhaps the tip of the day and be like, Hey, you prepared for dinner? Like, yeah, simply 5 extra minutes, 5 minutes. After which earlier than you realize it, the entire night time is gone. Since you’re simply nonetheless working away your enterprise, you’re pushing off duties, as a result of there’s no boss counting on you to get your work achieved. So that you in all probability have achieved fairly effectively. And perhaps you’re nonetheless working in a full time or half time job with another person managing you. And positive, it is perhaps procrastinating whilst you’re in your job, however you at all times get it achieved by the deadline to your boss. However in the case of enterprise, there’s no deadline. There’s no exterior individual, a boss or supervisor who’s saying, Hey, the place’s that I want to purchase this date. And so that you simply push issues off. Since you aren’t capable of honor your personal deadlines with your self. Additionally, you’ve got notebooks filled with concepts for your enterprise that you simply haven’t achieved something with. These are simply among the indicators that you’re procrasti-planning, so for planning for therefore lengthy, that it takes away time so that you can really do issues. Or you might be planning in a approach that stops you from taking motion and is definitely enabling procrastination.
So let’s discuss why perfection is consistently the identical planning recommendation as everybody else. So what I did simply earlier than recording that is I Googled learn how to plan your week, or an analogous phrase to that. And I simply wished to see, like, what recommendation would come up after I google that. And clearly, there’s lots of recommendation on the web about planning. And I need to point out a few issues I noticed on the primary article I learn and clarify why this recommendation it’s so frequent doesn’t really work for a perfectionist. And it really makes a perfectionist mindset work towards us. So then that is an uphill battle. So first instance was they mentioned, spend 15 to half-hour, planning your week on a Friday afternoon or a Sunday night. So mainly, on the finish of your week, spend a few minutes to plan your subsequent one. So a few issues with this. The primary is that 15 to half-hour isn’t sufficient time to plan your week correctly, it’s sufficient time to put in writing a fucking lengthy to do listing that by no means will get achieved. It’s sufficient time to overwhelm your self with all of the issues that you could do and sort of try this mind dump. But it surely’s not sufficient time to truly suppose it by prioritizing it.
A part of prioritization is deciding what you’re not going to do, deciding what you’re going to go away for later, to make contingency plans to determine how lengthy the duties are going to take you ways a lot time you want for relaxation. And I’m going to speak about that extra in a second. However 15 to half-hour. In my expertise, as somebody who’s been planning correctly as a perfectionist now for, I’d say at the very least three years, that that’s not sufficient time, it’s sufficient time to get you into overwhelm, it’s not sufficient time to get you out of it once more.
So once we’re energy planning, as step one of that we’re writing an enormous mind dump of the issues that we have to do, simply getting out of our mind and onto the web page. However it will possibly’t cease there the opposite 45 minutes is spent getting out of the overwhelm, making the plan workable, contemplating contingencies, like what occurs if my baby is sick, what occurs if I want to remain again at work? What occurs if I don’t have the power after I get house from my full-time job to do the factor I do know I must do for my enterprise.
If we do spend 15 to half-hour, then we’re not going to truly set ourselves up for achievement. And so whilst you might need a couple of lists of issues in your planner, that to-do listing, you’re not really going to have the ability to comply with by with these plans. Additionally, it’d been on the Friday afternoon or the Sunday night. That’s nice. You are able to do your planning then. However once we suppose it needs to be then if one thing comes up on Friday afternoon or one thing comes up on Sunday night, or every time it’s, then we don’t get it achieved in any respect. And we simply sort of skip the entire week.
So in energy planning, we do the ability hour and we additionally do a weekly assessment. And I are likely to do my weekly assessment instantly earlier than my energy hour in order that mixed and I don’t at all times try this on a Sunday. I don’t at all times try this on a Monday. I don’t at all times do it on a Tuesday. It’s simply sort of inside that realm of the tip of my weekend starting of the subsequent one. And for instance right this moment I’m recording this, it’s Tuesday, and I haven’t achieved my weekly assessment but. I have already got my energy planning in my calendar, however I haven’t achieved the weekly assessment. I’m going to do it this night however one thing got here up. So I needed to regulate. So if we’re on this mindset that it must be this particular time, and we’re in that each one or nothing mind-set, then if one thing occurs, we simply don’t do the weekly assessment in any respect. We don’t do the planning session in any respect. After which we’re simply winging it for the entire week hoping we’re going to be productive.
The opposite factor that I need to discuss in that article, there are various that I might have talked about was, that is what it mentioned, begin by making a listing of every thing you need to get achieved that week, then take a look at every merchandise and determine in your 4 or 5 largest priorities for the week. For those who plan your week, however fail to prioritize, you don’t know the place to start out. Agree, prioritization is essential. However initially, as I’ve talked about right here of the significance of prioritizing relaxation. However that apart, you could determine what you’ll and gained’t do. So the best way that is talked about is that there’s this lengthy to-do listing. And then you definitely’re in all probability highlighting 4 or 5 stuff you need to get achieved this week.
Now on the floor. Cool, that sounds nice. That sounds useful. However what tends to occur is we predict, Effectively, yeah, they’re my priorities. However I ought to be capable to get all of this achieved. And we don’t deliberately determine what isn’t going to occur this week, what are we going to go away for the subsequent week or for subsequent month, we don’t have a framework to truly make that call. So we simply sort of have this complete factor hovering over us. And even when we obtained these 4 or 5 largest priorities achieved, we nonetheless wouldn’t really feel like we’ve achieved sufficient, as a result of we’re specializing in what wasn’t achieved, relatively than what was. Additionally, do you even have sufficient time in your week for these priorities? And are they too obscure? So for instance, these priorities, if we do what’s taken, you realize, what’s on this recommendation, we might write this lengthy to do listing with obscure issues like, you realize, work on Instagram technique, write posts, no matter, like these obscure issues. And then you definitely would possibly spotlight a couple of of them. However you don’t know a few of them is perhaps this massive challenge. So it is perhaps like, work on launch of my product. That’s so obscure, you’re gonna really feel so overwhelmed. promote my enterprise, that’s so obscure, you’re gonna really feel so overwhelmed with that? And do you even have sufficient time to try this? Like, what else is happening in your week? What are your commitments? How a lot relaxation do you need to have? Do you could train and exercise? Like, what does that seem like? Do you’ve got sufficient time to try this?
That’s what I like with energy planning. We work from a digital calendar. So you might be actually, actually confronted with the constraints of how a lot time now we have in every week. And likewise the abundance of how a lot time now we have in every week once we use that point effectively, so this recommendation right here, actually doesn’t pay any regard. And I learn the remainder of the article, it wasn’t talked about there both to determining how lengthy issues are going to take. And spoiler alert, none of us know the way lengthy a brand new activity we’ve by no means achieved earlier than goes to take. It’s not like everybody else is aware of precisely how lengthy they should work for to get one thing achieved. And also you’re the one one who doesn’t know, you’re the one one who’s unhealthy at judging time for the way lengthy it’s going to take. It’s a ability, it takes follow. And there’s lots of completely different approaches to that. However you could really take a look at “Do I’ve time?” Like, am I setting myself up for failure from the get-go if these 4 or 5 largest priorities that I’m committing to doing?
In the event that they aren’t actually gonna have sufficient time, even when I used to be a robotic who didn’t must eat or sleep or do the rest? And likewise, are these 4 or 5 largest priorities? Like, the place do they fall into when it comes to the larger objectives that you’ve got. And what you’re working in direction of is one thing we regularly overlook as effectively, I believe this text did point out like you’ve got your long-term imaginative and prescient. However we need to be sure that your plans are literally going to get you nearer to your purpose.
Now, as I mentioned earlier than, that doesn’t imply that every thing you set in your calendar goes to work and get you the specified end result. And also you’re by no means gonna fail and any of that. And that’s one of many causes we procrastri-plan is as a result of we predict we should always solely put issues which are proper into our calendar. However we have to be sure that we are literally planning in a approach that units us up for achievement and makes comply with by straightforward relatively than having these 4 or 5 obscure priorities which are often worded in such a approach that it’s nearly unimaginable to even inform in the event you did it or not. After which beating ourselves up as a result of even when we obtained them achieved, there was nonetheless extra to do if we didn’t get them achieved. We’ll take a look at all these different issues I nonetheless need to do and I didn’t even get that stuff achieved.
An enormous downside with this as effectively is dedication that once you’re planning on this approach, it’s actually difficult to commit as a result of you’ll be able to’t even see what you’re actually committing to so like I hope I’m productive. And likewise, that is this complete all of this recommendation these two factors. And every thing that’s encompassed by that’s written as in the event you’re meant to really feel like doing it such as you really feel like planning your week, you’re feeling like doing all your weekly assessment, you’re feeling like selecting what these 4 or 5 largest priorities are. And that’s straightforward. And that’s such an essential a part of planning correctly, is to plan to your unmotivated self as in in the event you weren’t motivated, you could possibly comply with by on these plans.
What we are likely to do, particularly once we comply with regular planning recommendation, is that we predict we’re meant to really feel like our planning session, as a result of belief me, once you’re planning correctly, as a perfectionist, you should have some resistance to that planning session, as a result of it requires lots of mind energy, that one hour of brainpower within the Energy Hour goes to set you up for such an unimaginable week with ups and downs and all of the issues that enterprise entails, however it will set you up for achievement. However you’re going to withstand it the identical with the weekly assessment, you’re going to need to put it off. The identical with any activity in your enterprise that requires braveness and requires you to do one thing new, you’re going to need to put it off. So if we plan as if Oh, effectively, that’s simply really easy you simply sit down and make these selections and do the issues, then we find yourself creating this concept that it ought to be straightforward. And there’s one thing incorrect with us as a result of it’s not.
It’s gonna be difficult, particularly to start with, to follow making selections and backing your self. And to follow having constraint and never penning this large to-do listing. After which making an attempt to do all of it by constraining your self to those are the issues I’m going to do. I’ve checked out my calendar, I’ve checked out how a lot power I’ve in a day. And I’ve made an assumption that you simply’re gonna check. So what you do in energy planning is you’ll make your plan, you’ll and I’m speaking about this within the subsequent episode, the three steps.
In order a Energy Hour, little tweaks, and the weekly assessment so that you’re gonna make your plan that on a regular basis you’re going to tweak it, maintain it workable, make changes as wanted. And then you definitely’re going to assessment it, what labored, what didn’t work, what to do in a different way, so as to plan higher than subsequent week. So it’s gonna take follow, to actually be on this place the place you’re on this groove with it. And it’s really easy. It’s enjoyable you could get that like, belief me, so I was so pissed off with planning and having that love-hate relationship and feeling like there was one thing incorrect with me, as a result of I ought to be smarter than procrastinating on a regular basis and being overwhelmed and being burned out like I knew higher. And but I wasn’t doing higher. And that was so irritating. However after I was capable of actually see the planning downside, and make these tweaks that I wanted to make, in order that I might plan correctly as a perfectionist, it doesn’t imply that it was all straightforward. There was no challenges ever. However after I was capable of be in a progress minded strategy to it, and I’m going to speak about that later within the collection as effectively with a 3 month dedication. However after I was in a position to try this, issues obtained a lot extra enjoyable, a lot extra fulfilling.
It additionally introduced up difficult perfectionism work that I’ve been capable of keep away from by working from a to do listing. But it surely all actually that that’s when my enterprise actually began to take off is after I obtained this planning piece down. So let’s discuss why we procrasti-plan. So we unknowingly comply with recommendation. It doesn’t work for perfectionist, that’s one of many largest causes that we procrasti-plan. Plus, spending time planning means we don’t need to be doing and doing feels scary. As a result of we would fail, we would succeed, we is perhaps rejected all of these various things. But in addition making an attempt to compensate usually for lack of perception in our objectives or ourselves. By making an attempt to make these plans which are good.
We’re additionally making an attempt to compensate for an absence of self-trust. We don’t belief ourselves to comply with by with our plans. We don’t belief ourselves to be okay with failure. We don’t belief ourselves to make selections. So we compensate for that and suppose if I can simply plan every thing good. And I can simply get sufficient willpower to comply with by with it. Then perhaps I can really do all these items that I wanna do. When the irony of that’s once we’re making an attempt to compensate for lack of self belief by procrasti-planning and planning in a approach that doesn’t really work for perfectionist. Typically the results of that’s that when planning we will’t comply with by on which additional depletes self-trust.
We additionally love procrasti-planning as a result of in the case of planning, particularly once we’re doing it in this type of unintentionally indulgent approach that we get this sense of catharsis prefer it’s actually soothing, particularly once we sort of know we don’t need to comply with by with the plans anyway, we’re probably not dedicated, we hope we’ll be productive. That it’s cathartic within the sense of like, okay, effectively, perhaps I’ll get this achieved. And like, we will tick these containers and sort of get this sense of order and management. Additionally, I like to think about this like shopping for a lottery ticket. So despite the fact that you realize, your probabilities of falling by a slam, it provides you a way of hope for a greater future. So in the case of an precise lottery ticket, the place you could possibly win cash, however you actually know the possibilities are so, so tiny that you’d win, you’re shopping for the hope of a greater future, you’re shopping for the dream, the chance to dream that many individuals really feel like they don’t have until they’ve that lottery ticket. That is what I purchase, that is what I present. That is what I do with that cash.
And that’s sort of what we’re doing once we procrasti-planning. We all know we’re not going to comply with by with it. However like, however what if. We simply get to dwell in that place of hope, as an alternative of moving into a spot of braveness and being progress minded, and truly doing the issues and studying learn how to expertise that failure and bounce again from it and expertise a hit and be okay with it and all these various things. So once we procrasti-planning, there’s a couple of issues with that.
The primary is that we predict the rationale we’re not following by is as a result of there’s one thing incorrect with us. And once we’re on this place of disgrace and inadequacy, that’s when burnout occurs. That’s once we aren’t capable of be resourceful once we suppose that the issue is there’s one thing incorrect with us. And there’s nothing we will do about that, like, that’s actually what disgrace is, it’s, there’s one thing incorrect with me, relatively than I did one thing incorrect. So once we’re in that place of disgrace, our resourcefulness simply evaporates.
As a result of like, effectively, it’s simply one thing incorrect with me, there’s nothing I can do about it. And we attempt to do issues about it by making an attempt to attain all these items and make up for it with success and all these different challenges that now we have that don’t work. But when we’re considering that there’s one thing incorrect with us, and it’s straightforward to suppose this, once you procrastinate planning, and as a human being, and now we have this tendency to suppose there’s one thing incorrect with us, we don’t pull up, and everybody’s gonna discover us out. That when we’re not capable of actually determine the planning downside, and there’s one thing that may be achieved about it, and I can simply discover ways to plan correctly, we’re then sort of simply caught on this rut. And that is the place there actually turns into this massive hole between what you realize you’ve got the potential to do and what your day-to-day life appears to be like like.
One other downside with procrasti-planning is that in the event you procrasti-planning, you’ll be considering you’re doing extra to construct your enterprise than you really are doing. And that is, particularly in the event you’re doing the type of procrasti-planning, the place you’re spending lots of time planning, or perhaps you’ve spent lots of time planning to plan studying completely different planning techniques and all that sort of factor, the place it’s similar to, perhaps you’ve got like these 5 completely different strategies you’re making an attempt to piece collectively. So it really works to your perfectionist mind. After we are doing that, we really feel like we’re engaged on the enterprise. However we’re not, lots of occasions when it goes into that procrastinate planning, it’s not productive. And this then creates entitlement. So it’s sort of like in case you are, you realize, you need to get match, you purchase a health club membership. Or you consider going to the health club, you purchase exercise outfits. You write up a meal plan, you do all these items which are like periphery actions, you’re sort of like on the brink of prepare. However you don’t really go to the health club, then you’ll really feel like, why am I not match but? Like, why don’t I’ve the physique I would like. I joined the health club three years in the past, like I ought to be fitter.
But it surely’s since you’re not doing the precise work. So we will do lots of these periphery actions that really feel like they’re essential, however they’re not really serving to us. And so when you’re procrasti-planning, you’re gonna find yourself feeling entitled that you need to be additional alongside. So in the event you’ve been feeling like, I simply know, I ought to be additional alongside in my enterprise, in the event you’re feeling pissed off that new companies are already extra profitable than yours. So that you would possibly see somebody who began their Instagram account after yours they usually have already got extra followers. It is a signal that you’re procrasti-planning, it is a signal that due to that procrasti-planning, you suppose you’re doing extra in your enterprise than you really are, which implies you suppose you need to be additional alongside than you really ought to, based mostly on the way you’ve been exhibiting up. So it additionally creates lots of disgrace once you suppose you’re doing greater than you might be as a result of it’s really easy to have that story that effectively. I’m placing in all this time and it’s not working. There have to be one thing incorrect with me. When that’s not the case. It’s simply the procrasti-planning and never planning correctly as a perfectionist. It additionally creates quitting, once we procrasti-plan and we predict that we’re doing extra in our enterprise than we really are. And now we have that entitlement and that disgrace and all these different issues. As a result of we’re rational, we determine it’s greatest to give up.
And quitting usually doesn’t seem like a blatant give up. It’s often Oh, I’ve this different thought as an alternative, I’m going to discover, it appears to be like like leaping round from one purpose to the subsequent is why in PGSD, you set one purpose, your unimaginable purpose for your enterprise, which inserts in with energy planning, you want that unimaginable purpose so as to energy plan successfully. But when now we have so many objectives, and lots of perfectionist once they’re not planning correctly, they’ll have a giant purpose for each space of their life. And because of this you can be leaping from one purpose to the subsequent to the subsequent, every time any of them get uncomfortable, which all of them will, in the event you’re doing something correctly with purpose setting, you’re going to be in that dip the place motivation is gone, and also you haven’t but obtained outcomes. So once you get to that dip, you’re going to need to soar to specializing in the subsequent purpose. Or really, I assumed I actually wished to work on my enterprise this yr, however my well being and health like, that’s really the work I must do first, after which that’s going to create a very strong basis of habits. After which when I’ve higher habits, I’ll be capable to present up for my enterprise extra totally. Possibly you’ve been considering one thing like that. It’s to not say when you’ve got an unimaginable purpose round your enterprise, that you simply don’t have stuff you’re engaged on in different areas of life, however as a result of the way you do one factor is the way you do every thing.
Having one purpose that basically brings up your perfectionism work brings up the enterprise work you could do as effectively. These advantages movement over into each space of life. However once you’re on this behavior of leaping from one purpose to the subsequent to the subsequent, and that is frequent goal-setting recommendation, set practical objectives. And we’re going to on this episode, why I don’t agree with that. Let’s set practical objectives is what we’re advised. And likewise to have a purpose for each space of your life. So set three objectives, set seven objectives, like there are, you realize, individuals train these, what do they name a circle factor that has all these completely different items of the pie to your life, a circle, a life wheel, one thing like that? Anyway, it’ll have like relationships, spirituality, well being, psychological well being, enterprise, Profession, no matter it’s, all these various things, say have a purpose in each space. We love that. As a result of we get to really feel once more, it’s like that lottery ticket, what if, what if, what if, after which anytime we get uncomfortable, we get to leap between issues. And that may be a type of quitting. We don’t acknowledge it as that we predict, Oh, no, I simply had this nice thought. However usually my quitting on the thought we had. And lots of occasions you gained’t even dedicated to that within the first place. We actually need to be setting objectives as perfectionist in a approach that truly provides you that chance to commit.
However we’re actually creating this with procrasti-planning we’re creating this concept that we ought to be additional alongside. And that basically stops us from being additional alongside. Additionally, once we’re procrasti-planning, as I discussed, it destroys self-trust relatively than constructing it, which makes it tougher to deal with failure to make selections to comply with by with our plans. And it will definitely results in not eager to plan in any respect, due to the best way that procrasti-planning. And following recommendation. It doesn’t work for perfectionist. That destroys self belief a lot that we predict what’s the level, why even hassle, I’m not even going to do any of this anyway. And also you would possibly know like, you’ve got a historical past of being an incredible planner, in the case of your job, maybe the place you’ve got a boss, who you might be finally reporting to, or perhaps you handle different individuals and you’ll plan in that context. However in the case of simply me, myself and I when it’s you planning for your self and your objectives and your enterprise. And typically that may imply disappointing others and what requests others have of you all through the day, or all through the week, when that may imply you’re not capable of people-please and do all of the issues to maintain everybody pleased. And such as you like it may be actually confronting for that, for that to be occurring. And so we love being on this, procrasti-planning, however then we find yourself in a state of affairs the place we simply determine why even hassle. I’m simply going to wing it.
And sometimes this may seem like saying issues like, you realize what, I simply don’t like I’ve been placing all this strain on myself. I simply don’t need to put any strain on myself anymore. And I’m simply gonna, you realize, have this actually easy listing of issues. And I’m simply gonna deal with doing that and letting that be sufficient. And there’s a lot nuance to this, I in all probability don’t have time to enter all of it. However that’s one other approach we give up and in energy planning for instance, once we’re utilizing that we’re variety to ourselves, we don’t burn out, we’re capable of discover procrastination and do one thing about it and do it in the simplest approach, not having to delete the Instagram app or doing issues like that. And we acknowledge that it’s our mind that’s considering pressuring ideas. It’s not the plans which are making us really feel pressured. And so what can occur, and I’ve seen this in PGSD as effectively, when PGSDer will say, you realize, what, I simply don’t need the strain of this unimaginable purpose, I simply don’t need the strain of those plans. So I’m simply gonna wing it and float. However that isn’t useful, both.
We need to be self-compassionate in a approach that truly works. That helps us have a greater relationship with ourselves. After we are being “self-compassionate”, in a approach, that’s really ignoring ourselves, dismissing what we’re right here to do and what we’re able to. It doesn’t assist us construct self-trust. And we solely additional proof that we aren’t as succesful as we thought we have been. So we need to actually have productiveness being an act of self-care. And sometimes self care can be an act of productiveness, doing one thing that you simply don’t need to do. As a result of you realize that it’s in your personal greatest curiosity. And that’s why with energy planning, you make the plans, we regularly is usually a bitch to ourselves, we are going to make plans that if somebody gave them to us, we might suppose like, do you even know that I must sleep and eat and do all these different issues, we try this to ourselves, simply because we haven’t realized learn how to plan correctly as a perfectionist. And so if that’s occurring, once you cease energy planning, so we try this for 3 months, and possibly the primary few weeks, you’re going to plan in the best way that you simply’ve at all times deliberate earlier than. And also you’re going to really feel such as you’re not capable of comply with by in your plans. And there’s lots of strain. However that’s simply since you’re over planning, or underneath planning or each. And with the assistance of that planning technique, you’re going to have the ability to discover that and get teaching and get assist and truly do one thing about it.
And that’s why now we have that three month dedication. However once we are on this mindset that, effectively, if planning isn’t working for me, then I ought to simply not plan in any respect and wing it and go together with a movement, then we’re actually denying ourselves such a possibility for progress. And such a possibility for actually simply having that strong relationship with ourselves. It makes me consider, say, for instance, in case you are eager to shed weight, and you could change the best way you’re consuming so as to try this, that you simply would possibly suppose, Okay, I’m going to comply with this actually, actually strict weight-reduction plan. And then you definitely, you realize, you set that up in a approach that wasn’t sustainable. So in fact, you’re not capable of maintain it. And then you definitely’re like, effectively, that was too strict. And I’m simply gonna be taught to you realize, love myself, no matter I eat, and all of that. And I’m all for intuitive consuming. However there’s a distinction between that and ignoring your self. That’s not what intuitive consuming is intuitive consuming is being in tune with your self. Not ignoring your self, and your emotions and your relationship with your self.
The identical with energy planning, we’re doing it in a approach that’s self compassionate, and being tuned in as an alternative of being tuned out. And ignoring the expansion and the work that there’s for us to do. So that’s the reason procrasti planning is an issue. We went into {that a} bit. However let’s discuss learn how to plan correctly as perfectionist. And this really units up the subsequent episode actually properly, as a result of I can be going into the three steps of energy planning.
So I’m simply going to provide you a really transient overview on this episode, we’re gonna go into it in additional element within the subsequent one. So step one is the ability hour. So in your weekly Energy Hour, you’ll put your needle-moving duties into your digital calendar. And also you’ll create contingency plans that make it straightforward to get every thing achieved with out feeling overwhelmed. So that you don’t know precisely which duties to do now, which duties depart for the long run, and you’ll begin feeling begin the week feeling on prime of your enterprise, even you probably have a full-time job, otherwise you’re elevating kids or there’s any sort of uncertainty in your week.
The second step is little tweaks. So day-after-day you spend a bit of little bit of time tweaking your calendar so you will get every thing achieved with out falling behind with out burning out. Even when one thing sudden comes up. And also you’ll know when altering your plans is self-sabotage and when it’s the correct factor to do. That is one thing that’s actually essential as a result of we really feel like every thing is essential. So when you’ll be able to actually begin to see okay, what do I must prioritize and depart for later. And within the second all through the week, you’ll be able to say okay, me altering the plan proper now could be self-sabotage, or me altering the plan proper now could be actually an act of self-compassion and is really in my very own greatest pursuits.
That makes such a giant distinction in the case of following by exhibiting up totally all these issues, then the third step is a weekly assessment. So on the finish of the week, you’ll do a short weekly assessment, to actually mirror and uncover what labored, what didn’t work and what to do in a different way. In order that subsequent week’s plans is even simpler to comply with. So listed here are among the key parts of planning correctly, there’s a time restrict in your planning session. So that you don’t spend an entire day planning out every week.
Now, once you begin energy planning, it’d take you greater than the 60 minutes, it’d take you perhaps 90 minutes as you’re studying that. However you need to have a time restrict in your planning session. You’re additionally not over planning or underneath planning, once you’re planning correctly as a perfectionist. So over planning appears to be like like placing an excessive amount of in your plates. We love to do that. That is once more, like that lottery ticket, the hope of being productive has such a pull to it, that we put a lot on our plate. However by doing that, we’re really setting ourselves as much as fail, and setting ourselves as much as really feel unhealthy.
A part of the rationale for that’s we’re so used to feeling unhealthy and feeling behind and feeling overwhelmed however that’s regular for us. So we sort of recreate that and that signal that planning correctly will enable you to to get out of out of this habit to feeling behind and this habit to feeling overwhelmed. Whereby these underneath planning, which we regularly do after over planning that they will typically sort of go on on the similar time, which is having plans which are too obscure.
So the recommendation I discussed earlier than, about having these 4 or 5 priorities and that sort of factor, once you try this, you’re going to finish up over planning and placing an excessive amount of in your plate in all probability as a result of these 4 or 5 priorities relying what they’re, would possibly take extra time than you’ve got within the week, otherwise you’re subconsciously and even consciously considering, effectively, these are my priorities, however I ought to be capable to do every thing. And then you definitely’re underneath planning by having plans which are too obscure. So it’s like work on this challenge, write posts for Instagram, or no matter, that’s not really very clear about what you could do, and the way you’ll let you know’re achieved.
So one other essential a part of planning correctly is value correcting throughout the week, so that you don’t fall behind. So that is protecting your plans workable. As a substitute of simply sort of throwing them out the window, the second you don’t comply with by or if you realize, you comply with by completely for a few days, and then you definitely begin falling behind. After which the listing of unfinished duties is simply so lengthy, you’re like, No, I’m simply gonna begin over as a result of I really feel so behind. I really feel so careworn, I really feel a lot strain.
Having a framework that permits you to determine when to alter your plans and when to comply with by with the plans that you simply made throughout the energy hour, that’s actually essential a part of planning correctly. Additionally planning to your unmotivated self, relatively than your supreme self. In order that even in the event you’re not motivated, you’re capable of comply with by with them. Moderately than planning as you probably have this limitless quantity of motivation. After which feeling confused, once you get to the time of doing the duty, and like, huh I don’t really feel prefer it. Oh, that should imply I shouldn’t do it. As a result of so many people interpret resistance as like this sign from the universe, that it’s not in alignment with us. And we shouldn’t do it. When so usually, it’s only a signal that we’re gonna develop. And we’re not used to truly simply being with that feeling and dealing by it.
That is usually why we depart issues till the final minute as a result of we haven’t practiced learn how to be with that resistance and simply maintain working. We find yourself needing to have that, you realize, last-minute rush. As a result of once we watched the final minute we inform ourselves the story of effectively, it’s on the final minute, so if I don’t do in addition to I would like, however like we will blame the final minute, we don’t say ourselves that to ourselves consciously. However in the event you and perhaps did this at school, I undoubtedly did. I left every thing to the final minute had this complete story that I do my greatest work on the final minute. After which if I didn’t do effectively, I often did although, and it sort of strengthened the entire thing. And the actual fact was I simply hadn’t even skilled my greatest work, however I assumed I did my greatest work underneath strain. And so I used to be like, Okay, effectively, I might have achieved even higher if I didn’t depart it to the final minute obtained to really feel additional sensible. After which if I didn’t do in addition to I need to I might say effectively, you realize, I did depart it to the final minute. And we have to get out of that in the case of enterprise as a result of there’s no final minute. And even when there’s a final minute when it comes to perhaps doing a promotion or one thing like that, the place there’s a time you’ve publicly introduced it’s not sustainable, it’s not pleasurable. And it’s one type of getting in your personal approach.
And like in PGSD, we assist people who find themselves dedicated to get out of their very own approach and who’ve been by that and are prepared for one thing else. So we need to have you ever planning in a approach that truly makes it straightforward to comply with by even in the event you’re not motivated. Clear relaxation. I’ve talked about on this on the podcast already. Resting with out guilt. That’s such an essential a part of planning. You want to plan that. For those who’re a perfectionist, you’re not going to need to relaxation. You’re going to need to relaxation in a leftover time, which by no means occurs, as a result of there’s at all times one thing extra to do. So clear relaxation is a very essential half having a transparent purpose in thoughts, so you realize what’s essential and what isn’t like that’s your North Star.
That’s how you determine what the needle movers are. That’s how you determine whether or not it’s best to simply relaxation or it’s best to push by, or no matter that appears like. That’s, that’s a part of it. Additionally planning in a approach that permits you to really feel a way of accomplishment each single day, even when there’s nonetheless extra issues to do. That’s such an essential piece of the puzzle. And that recommendation I shared earlier about, you realize, your 4 or 5 priorities, and, you realize, spotlight them or no matter it’s, after which simply work on them. You’re not going to really feel completed, since you haven’t determined what completion appears to be like like. You haven’t determined what success appears to be like like. It’s simply this obscure, get every thing achieved sort of factor. So I’ve mentioned rather a lot. I hope this has been useful. If it has, please take a screenshot and tag me on Instagram, I’m @perfectionismproject. So the subsequent a part of the collection can be going into extra element across the energy planning technique, how that works, why it really works, and all that good things.
Outro
I hope you loved that episode within the planning collection, I need to invite you into Perfectionist Getting Shit Finished so you will get out of your personal approach in your enterprise and get your enterprise off the bottom. For those who battle with exhibiting up persistently, in the event you battle with procrastination, with overthinking, with burnout, with overwhelm, with having a tough time making selections. PGSD is for you. We’re doing at the moment our final enrollment for the yr. So the doorways are closing at 11:59pm jap time this Friday, the twenty first of November. So to affix us inside, go to samlaurabrown.com/pgsd, right this moment.
