An Introduction to Clear Relaxation + Why It is Important For Perfectionists [Part 1: Clean Rest Series]

Should you’re sick of being behind in what you are promoting (despite the fact that you’re doing ALL the issues), this episode is for you.

I clarify what clear relaxation is (i.e. resting with out guilt) and why it’s important for perfectionists. 

It could not really feel prefer it, however clear relaxation will enable you to work higher and construct a greater enterprise (with much less overwhelm, much less procrastination and fewer burnout).

You’ll have loads of clear relaxation scheduled in your calendar whenever you’re planning correctly as a perfectionist.

All that clear relaxation received’t be scary since you’ll be so clear on what’s essential vs what isn’t, whenever you work greatest and the best way to preserve your plans workable so that you by no means fall behind. You’ll be capable to ENJOY your day off.

It’s time to begin planning correctly as a perfectionist – and that features getting the clear relaxation you want. And anybody can learn the way…

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Should you’re able to get out of your personal approach in what you are promoting, you need to be a part of my productiveness program for perfectionists who’re constructing companies known as Perfectionists Getting Shit Achieved. Click on right here to search out out extra about this system and be a part of the waitlist at present: samlaurabrown.com/pgsd. Enrollment is opening for one week solely from 4 to 11 April 2025.

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Introduction

Hello, and welcome to a different episode of The Perfectionism Challenge. A podcast filled with perfectionism recommendation for entrepreneurs. My title is Sam Laura Brown, I assist entrepreneurs launch their perfectionism handbrake, to allow them to get out of their very own approach and construct a satisfying and worthwhile enterprise. I’m the founding father of the perfectionist getting shit accomplished group teaching program, which is in any other case generally known as PGSD. And for much more perfectionism recommendation that will help you with what you are promoting, you’ll be able to comply with me on Instagram @perfectionismproject.

Sam Laura Brown

Welcome to what’s the first episode on this 5 half collection all about clear relaxation, I’ve been getting so many requests to enter extra element about clear relaxation, and what it’s how goes that will help you launch your perfectionism handbrake, the place it matches in when it comes to planning correctly as a perfectionist, like what it seems like in your energy planning, the best way to get extra of it, the best way to really feel protected doing it, what it’s wish to really feel resistance to it, and the best way to overcome that resistance. And simply all of the issues about clear relaxation. So I’m actually excited to be bringing this collection to you.

So that you’ve got quite a lot of the important thing ideas relating to scrub relaxation multi functional place, in an effort to begin getting extra clear relaxation, which goes that will help you get out of your personal approach, it’s going to make it simpler to be extra brave in what you are promoting and to attain your objectives. It’s going to have you ever having fun with the journey, it’s going to have you ever be extra current in your private life. And really feeling like you’ve gotten a life outdoors of what you are promoting that you simply love. It’s going to cease you from burning on the market are simply so many advantages to scrub relaxation, we’re going to be going into that on this collection.

And I additionally need to be sure you know that you’re invited to hitch us inside perfectionist getting shit accomplished, which is the place you’ll be able to apply clear relaxation and actually grasp it. This actually is about not simply intellectually understanding the idea of unpolluted relaxation, which is resting with out guilt, it’s intentional non enterprise time, we get that I’m certain you already intellectually perceive what it’s simply from me sharing that for those who weren’t aware of it earlier than. However what does it appear to be to really get clear relaxation and to really expertise the advantages of it that comes with apply.

And I need to invite you into PGSD. So you’ll be able to apply that with us. Notably if burnout is one thing you actually wrestle with when you’ve got a motivation drawback. And you might be discovering it exhausting to search out the vitality and the psychological energy to do what it’s that that you must do. And for those who really feel such as you’re at all times working, however you’re by no means getting all the pieces accomplished. And also you’re at all times behind that I actually need to invite you in.

So the doorways to PGSD will probably be opening at 6am New York time on the 4th of April. Enrollment for PGSD will probably be open for one week. And I need to invite you in and particularly for those who discover this clear relaxation collection useful. When you’ve got been having fun with the podcast if you realize you’re a perfectionist, you’re able to get out of your personal approach in what you are promoting.

And also you really need someplace to be supported whilst you do that work and to take it to that deeper degree and never simply intellectually perceive what it’s that I discuss on the podcast, however to be residing and respiratory that that’s what we do inside PGSD. And we might like to have you ever be a part of us. So yow will discover out extra about PGSD. Should you’re not already on the waitlist, I encourage you to enroll at samlaurabrown.com/pgsd. The hyperlink within the present notes is the place you’ll be able to be a part of the waitlist. And as soon as the doorways are open, that can also be the place you’ll be able to join.

So if you wish to discover out extra about this system as nicely, you’re not likely certain what it’s go to that web site and you can find extra particulars there. So earlier than I get into the majority of this episode, which goes to be actually concerning the idea usually of unpolluted relaxation, and the way I developed that, why it happened what that appears like what which means. I simply need to share the place clear relaxation matches in, when it comes to releasing your perfectionism handbrake moving into progress mindset.

So let’s simply do a fast recap of perfectionism releasing that handbrake get into the expansion mindset, like what which means. And that’s gonna give us a context to speak about clear relaxation, as a result of it’s actually essential to know that, sure, it’s nice to have steadiness, quote, unquote, and to get relaxation and to not burn out. However how does this slot in particularly, with you getting out of your personal approach and together with your perfectionism journey?

That’s what I need to be sure you know. So if we take into consideration perfectionism, perfectionism is a method to keep away from disgrace. Perfectionist aren’t excellent folks, perfectionist of people that really feel ashamed that they aren’t excellent. Once we really feel ashamed that we’re not excellent. We are likely to give attention to avoiding imperfection. So this manifests sometimes in 5 methods. So the indicators of perfectionism the 5 indicators are overwhelmed, procrastination, burnouts, all or nothing pondering and worry of judgment.

There’s nothing improper with being a perfectionist. It’s not poisonous. It’s not a flaw. It’s none of these issues, it’s only a set of beliefs, and our perfectionist tendencies as having all these totally different ways in which we withhold effort as a result of we predict effort is an indication of inadequacy. So we don’t need to be seen or have ourselves see that we’re placing in a full effort as a result of it feels so weak, to provide it our all and to doubtlessly discover out that our greatest wasn’t adequate.

So we’re doing all these various things to keep away from displaying up absolutely therefore, the overwhelm, the procrastination, burnout, all or nothing pondering, the worry of judgment, these are simply methods that we use to guard ourselves as a result of it doesn’t really feel protected to indicate up imperfectly, however all of these tendencies, are simply coming from the ideas that we’re having at present. And sure, we would have had a few of these perfectionist ideas as kids, they usually positively served us as kids. That’s the reason our mind has these ideas, as a result of they work in a sure setting. However now as adults, and particularly having a enterprise, they don’t serve us anymore.

And it’s so useful to know that perfectionism these tendencies, that perfectionism handbrake, it’s simply coming from the ideas that you’re having at present. And you’ll be able to change these ideas. And if we focus as an alternative, on not being a perfectionist, we give attention to moving into the expansion of mindset that’s going to show releasing your perfectionism handbrake from one thing that seems like a pleasant factor to do. And all of those mentors about accomplished is best than excellent. From that into one thing sensible, tangible, actionable, and you realize, the place to focus your vitality, and you realize what that you must be doing together with your time.

In order that’s what we do in PGSD, we use the PGSD course of to get right into a progress mindset. Only a fast recap, as nicely on the expansion mindset. So once we’re within the progress mindsets, we’re actually residing from that place of it’s higher to have tried and failed than to have by no means tried in any respect. Once we’re within the progress mindset, we’re brave, experimental, we’re actually eager about issues in a approach that we are able to enhance upon our abilities, and skills with apply and energy.

So we’re actually seeing effort as one thing that’s worthwhile, and that it’s price placing effort into issues, even when they’re not going to work immediately, as a result of we’re growing our ability set. Once we are within the perfectionist mindset, which could in any other case be known as the fastened mindset. That’s once we consider that our skills, our skills, our intelligence our repair, and that they’ll’t be modified. And due to this fact that creates an expertise. And we now have that perception set, that all the pieces we do is proof of whether or not or not we’re adequate.

And that makes us need to defend our potential and do issues that we’re solely going to be good at. So that is once more, the place the avoiding imperfection is available in like sure, quite a lot of perfectionism is about wanting issues to be excellent. However that tends to manifest as not doing something in any respect, as a result of we are able to’t have issues be excellent, and we need to keep away from imperfection. That’s actually quite a lot of what it’s about. So if we take into consideration the expansion mindset, once more, it’s only a set of beliefs, we’re capable of have these beliefs, we don’t have to be in these beliefs on a regular basis. With the intention to get out of our personal approach.

We simply must have these ideas and emotions extra usually. That the PGSD course of is the sensible technique to get your self into the expansion mindset. So that’s damaged down into three steps. That is what we do inside PGSD. So plan correctly as a perfectionist that includes setting your progress purpose and utilizing energy planning, clear relaxation as nicely. If you find yourself doing all your energy planning you might be placing your clear relaxation in your calendar. I’ll discuss that extra partially, which half is it? Half three of this collection, episode 346. I will probably be speaking about planning out your clear relaxation and what that appears like particularly.

So once more, the 1st step, the PGSD course of is the method for making a progress mindset. Plan correctly as a perfectionist to get your perfectionist mindset in your aspect create plans which might be simple to comply with by on. Comply with by together with your plans. 80% of the time. Zero procrastination isn’t the purpose we’re aiming for 80% comply with by. That’s greater than sufficient. We relaxation with out guilt. That’s the third step, clear relaxation, relaxation with out guilt and repeat. Once we are in that course of, plan correctly, comply with by 80% of the time, relaxation with out guilt and repeat. That’s how we create a progress mindset.

And once we are in a progress mindset, we’re capable of expertise the success that we need to in our enterprise and truly benefit from the journey and achieve success in our enterprise with out it that means one thing about us which is why we now have a lot braveness and prepared to experiment and prepared to do issues that may not work as a result of we’re capable of not have our self price tousled within the success or in any other case, of our enterprise, that’s an unbelievable factor. So that’s the PGSD course of and clear relaxation, resting with out guilt is a 3rd step in that course of. This course of, as I mentioned, it’s relaxation with out guilt and repeat.

So that is one thing that we’re working by. Like once more, and once more, if that is smart. So that you’re going to be planning correctly, each week, you’ve acquired your progress purpose, which is a 12 month purpose, doing all your energy planning each week, then all through the week, you’re following by 80% of the time, and also you’re resting with out guilt. So let’s discuss what’s clear relaxation? I’m going to have my poor self let you know about it. As a result of and that is such a good looking factor. And I like how after I do these collection, my work behind the scenes at all times aligned with what this collection is about. So I recorded an episode on the best way to relaxation with out feeling responsible in April 2019.

And so what I used to be eager about was, nicely possibly previous me who’s already mentioned loads about clear relaxation, possibly I may deliver that to this collection, and share a better of one of the best episode within the sense that I’m going to be sharing with you ideas round clear relaxation. And I believe significantly as nicely, listening to previous me discuss, it’s gonna be so useful, as a result of on the time that I recorded that episode, I used to be working in a component time job, and I used to be simply in a special state of affairs when it comes to my life, then than I’m now. And so that you’re gonna get to listen to from each like hear from me earlier than I went full time on my enterprise, about clear relaxation. And likewise imply now I’m full time in my enterprise and have been since July 2019.

Hear what it’s like for me now and within the fifth half on this collection, I’m going to speak about what I stand up to after I’m taking clear relaxation and the way my clear relaxation apply has advanced and all of that. However I believed what higher technique to honor my clear relaxation and the way a lot capability I’ve to get my work accomplished. And to have you’ve gotten an extremely useful episode is that I’m going to share that episode with you that I recorded in 2019. So that is going to essentially enable you to get an understanding for what clear relaxation is. And simply to essentially underline as a result of I don’t know if I discussed it this fashion in that episode. Clear relaxation is that’s once we’re resting with out guilt.

And I would like you to particularly simply be eager about clear relaxation as intentional non enterprise time, it’s time that you’ve got determined, you aren’t allowed to work on what you are promoting. As a result of whenever you hear about clear relaxation, it’s resting with out guilt, and also you could be pondering, nicely, I’m resting, however I don’t know if I do really feel responsible, or I positively do really feel responsible. So is that clear relaxation? What counts, what doesn’t depend? And we’re going to be masking that as nicely within the fourth a part of this collection. What counts what doesn’t.

However what I would like you to be eager about is as an alternative of getting tousled on this query of is it clear relaxation if I really feel a bit responsible? To consider clear relaxation is a time that you’ve got determined isn’t allowed for enterprise work, that you are able to do no matter, however you’re not doing enterprise stuff. And by taking that chance to work on what you are promoting off the desk, it’s going to make it a lot simpler to not really feel responsible, as a result of we now have this thought that what I needs to be engaged on my enterprise. And the great thing about enterprise is you’ll be able to work on it everytime you need.

And likewise if we don’t learn to draw a line within the sand for ourselves, then we really feel like we needs to be engaged on it on a regular basis. And clear relaxation is likely one of the ways in which you’ll be able to give your self a psychological reprieve from that chatter and to simply be like No, I shouldn’t be engaged on my enterprise proper now as a result of it’s clear relaxation time. And I’m not allowed to and so I would like you to simply take into consideration clear relaxation, that’s time you’re deciding is a no go for enterprise stuff. And with that in thoughts, I’ll now introduce you to that episode. I hope you discover it extremely useful.

Right now I need to chat to you about the best way to relaxation with out feeling responsible. Productiveness is such an enormous factor for perfectionist. We need to really feel like no second goes to waste, and but, we procrastinate a fuck ton. So on this episode, I’m going to be speaking about the best way to relaxation with out guilt. And likewise simply actually getting you to see that having each second of the day open for productiveness is definitely stopping you from being as productive as you could be.

For me, what actually acquired me into this place the place I’ve been prepared to relaxation has been actually getting that I’m a lot extra productive. I’m a lot extra enthusiastic about life, after I really give myself a possibility to relaxation. That is one thing that I speak to, like mainly all of my one on one teaching purchasers about we work on this in some unspecified time in the future.

And in all my programs, we talked about this, it’s such an enormous a part of rising out of perfectionism, having the ability to really schedule in time, to be unproductive to relaxation to have downtime, and to not really feel responsible. Plenty of perfectionist need to be productive on a regular basis, after which surprise why it’s that they’re procrastinating on Netflix. However then it doesn’t even really feel good to look at Netflix since you simply really feel responsible, that you simply’re not finding out otherwise you’re not beginning what you are promoting otherwise you’re not doing no matter it was you promised your self that you’d do.

So this episode is for you for those who can relate to any of that. And that was once me, I’m actually like with each different podcast episode speaking from expertise, as a result of this was such an enormous wrestle for me. Beforehand, and solely within the final 12 months, I might say, Have I been actually prepared to see how my life would look if I did enable myself to relaxation with out guilt and to have that downtime and to essentially check out like the place is that this have to be productive really coming from and seeing that it wasn’t coming from one of the best place.

And I suppose that’s the place I need to begin is perfectionist actually need to be productive 24/7 as a result of it’s coming from this place of inadequacy, we consider that we’re not adequate. And so we’re making an attempt to compensate for that by doing extra. It’s actually this perception. If I do greater than I’ll be extra. It’s why perfectionist love planners, love being organized, however then on the similar time, actually struggled to comply with by a part of that’s self sabotage, which I received’t be speaking about on this episode.

And when you’ve gotten your acutely aware wishes being contradicted by your unconscious wishes. And often that’s the unconscious want to keep away from disgrace, is the one which retains us actually caught. However on this episode, I’m going to be speaking about additionally the function that relaxation performs in productiveness and reaching your objectives and when to really relaxation and the best way to even have relaxation with out guilt and the best way to know when it’s only a cop out. As a result of quite a lot of us use that excuse I deserve a break despite the fact that we don’t actually deserve a break.

Like we’re simply saying that in order that we now have an excuse to not comply with by on the factor that we had promised ourselves, we’d do. It’s like this tremendous sneaky approach that we simply let ourselves off the hook. We are saying I should relaxation after which we really feel responsible once we’re resting. After which once we return to doing the factor it’s we’re meant to be doing. We really feel like we’re behind after which we simply find yourself on this self pity cycle. I’ve accomplished an episode on that it’s episode 84. I’ll hyperlink it for you within the present notes. I extremely suggest listening to that one for those who can relate to what I share on this episode.

However for me, I used to consider that I wanted to be productive all of the rattling time. Like I didn’t need a second of the day to not be productive. It felt like a waste of time if I wasn’t doing one thing productive. Even like I used to really feel responsible and horrible after I was doing meal prep as an alternative of engaged on my weblog. Even when I simply be doing busy work on my weblog. I felt like so insufficient round it that I actually had this perception I would like each second I can and I used to be doing meal prep one thing that may profit me all through your entire week and I simply noticed that as a burden.

In direction of, like a burden that was stopping me from reaching my purpose of being profitable with my weblog. And it was not enjoyable to be resenting all the duties that have been really in my greatest curiosity. And it wasn’t enjoyable to by no means really be capable to relaxation and get better and respect myself and really feel pleased with myself. And I used to be simply always feeling like I used to be by no means doing sufficient. And since I felt like I used to be by no means doing sufficient, that simply made me procrastinate. As a result of I believed, nicely, it’s not going to make a distinction. I’m by no means gonna be capable to do sufficient anyway. And so I might be on social media, I’d be watching YouTube movies, once more, telling myself like, I deserve a bit break.

And I’m simply gonna get myself feeling impressed, and masking it up that approach. So it type of felt like what I might name productive procrastination. And once more, it’s why so many perfectionist such as you might need discovered me by Pinterest or someplace like that, since you need to really feel productive on a regular basis. However nobody could be productive 24/7 and in addition the strain to be productive 24/7 is de facto crippling. So quite a lot of perfectionist get actually good at productive procrastination, you could be researching and gathering issues on a regular basis on Pinterest.

Or possibly you might be always consuming issues and telling your self that you must be taught only one other thing earlier than you may be prepared to begin. So if that’s you, I get it. And with my weblog, like a very within the early days after I wasn’t actually telling anybody about it. And I nonetheless felt like I wasn’t adequate to be doing it and had quite a lot of embarrassment and disgrace round it. As a result of I simply thought like who am I to be sharing stuff.

And I don’t even know sufficient to be sharing something. And like all of the doubt, all of the worst belongings you’ve ever considered your self. That’s what I used to be eager about myself throughout that interval. And I had this new, I’ve acquired to be productive on a regular basis. And for me that simply regarded like quite a lot of sitting in entrance of my laptop and being productive as in I used to be like, If anybody checked out me, it will appear to be I’m working. However as a result of I haven’t had correct relaxation, my mind is working extra slowly than it could possibly be.

I’m additionally procrastinating and choosing up my cellphone and issues. And particularly, I’m doing duties that don’t even have to be accomplished. I was like spending hours and hours on Pinterest graphics. I might be modifying weblog submit that had already been revealed. And even currently, I needed to like catch myself with busy work. And I believe always prefer it’s one thing that quite a lot of us do, as a result of it feels extra snug to be productive, like busy work.

Work for work sake is productive procrastination. And so I seen what I used to be doing was I used to be doing the proper duties. I used to be recording podcast episodes. I’ve spoken about this on a earlier episode, however I used to be recording podcast episodes, writing my electronic mail e-newsletter, like doing all of the issues that weren’t busy work. However the best way I used to be doing them took up extra of my time than if I batch them collectively. And I used to batch issues collectively, which I’m presently doing proper now.

So I’ve recorded three podcast episodes at present. That is the third and closing one for at present. However earlier than I used to be recording them the day earlier than I wanted to publish them. And I did this for possibly like I need to say like 20 or 30 episodes, I used to be doing them proper earlier than. So it will take me longer as a result of I wanted to get my podcast set stuff arrange. I might have to be at residence.

So I couldn’t go to the co working house that day. I would like to consider a subject mainly it was gradual and clunky. As a result of I needed to do each individually. So busy work won’t even be engaged on a process that isn’t essential. It may be engaged on a process that’s essential in a extra time intensive overcomplicated type of approach. as nicely. One of many beliefs that had me doing that was not wanting issues to be too simple.

As a result of if issues have been simple, then I wouldn’t really feel like I deserve success. And that’s simply outdated programming this perception that it’s a must to work exhausting to be deserving. And that’s one thing I’ve been engaged on rewiring and simply actually getting that like for me to be probably the most profitable I could be I really have to be spending time within the duties which might be best for me like teaching and recording podcast episodes, and never overcomplicating issues like letting it’s simple by batching issues and being organized and planning and following by.

So simply needed to say there’s apparent procrastination like Netflix, there may be productive procrastination and busy work, like Pinterest, doing analysis, significantly for those who’ve been researching one thing for greater than an hour, such as you’re nicely into the productive procrastination at that time, it doesn’t actually take lengthy to search out ample info to get began. But additionally, you may simply be doing issues which might be essential, however you’re doing them in a extremely sloppy, haphazard final minute type of approach.

And that’s filling up your time, so that you simply get to really feel productive on a regular basis, with out really actually doing issues in the easiest way potential. So I really need you to see that, I might say 99% of the time, perfectionist need to be productive. And like a extremely huge purpose like one thing for those who’re on Pinterest you could be researching is the best way to be productive, the best way to keep motivated, that type of line of pondering. However then you definately procrastinate.

And despite the fact that you’ve gotten these actually nice intentions with productiveness, you aren’t capable of comply with by, you begin belongings you don’t end, and also you simply go down the rabbit gap shiny object syndrome, you’ve gotten all of those concepts, and also you inform your self nicely, yeah, you realize, I wouldn’t have such an issue if I didn’t have all these nice concepts, which I hear lots of people say, and other people like most individuals have quite a lot of concepts. And I actually consider that that isn’t a burden. It’s simply one thing to be taught, okay, nicely, I’m going to have quite a lot of concepts, I simply want to verify I don’t attempt to comply with by on them and use that as an excuse.

I may go on and on about that aspect of issues, and all of the totally different ways in which we self sabotage. However what I actually simply needed to get out is that once we’re making an attempt to be productive 24/7, we’re really not productive in any respect. And sometimes, we’re much less productive than if we had half the time for something. Like, even when it’s for cleansing for doing life admin stuff, for those who resolve to do it, and also you’re very intentional about it, and also you simply get it accomplished. It’s a lot faster, that once we strategy life, on this, I’ve acquired to be productive frenzy. And we aren’t capable of really be targeted, do one factor at a time, get it accomplished, transfer on to the following factor.

And so for me, I actually was once coming from this place of inadequacy. And there was quite a lot of worry round not being productive, that if I wasn’t reaching my arbitrary objectives that I’d made for myself, if I wasn’t busy on a regular basis, perfectionist love feeling busy one other approach that we get in our personal methods by placing like 50 commitments on our plate, in order that if we fail at one in all them, we by no means must really feel that full pressure of the failure as a result of we are able to say, I used to be so busy with all of those different issues.

That yeah, I didn’t do as nicely my enterprise as a result of I’m actually making an attempt to give attention to this relationship. And that relationship isn’t going nearly as good because it may as a result of I’m on the health club on a regular basis. Nonetheless, that appears for you. However I had this actual worry of what would occur if I wasn’t capable of be productive. And that’s type of like the place the guilt got here in.

And this concept that if I’m not productive on a regular basis, there’s no approach I could be profitable. And if I’m not profitable, then I’m gonna really feel ashamed of myself. And it was not enjoyable. And even after I was doing nicely, productiveness clever, which was uncommon. It nonetheless wasn’t enjoyable, as a result of nothing was ever sufficient and perfectionist by no means really feel adequate, it doesn’t matter what they achieved. It’s the rationale I educate the best way to get right into a progress mindset. And episode 100 was concerning the 5 largest errors perfectionist make with mindset, with the expansion mindset.

So for those who haven’t listened to that, be sure you take heed to that one after this as nicely, I believe you’ll discover it actually useful. However it may possibly actually simply come from this place of inadequacy and this worry that if I cease being as productive, then I received’t achieve success. However once more, when we now have that strain to be productive 24/7 we simply find yourself procrastinating and doing busy work and never really residing as much as our potential anyway. What I’m making an attempt to say is to let go of this have to be productive 24/7, you’re not really letting go of a large amount of productiveness, you’ve in all probability simply been busy with out really creating that many ends in your life.

So what I did have accomplished for the final two weeks, for the primary week, I used to be in Bali on the manifestation babe retreat, and I speak extra about that in episode 99. After which after I acquired residence I had every week off my enterprise I used to be nonetheless going to my half time job within the afternoons from 4pm to 8pm. However apart from that I used to be simply doing residence initiatives hanging out with Steve, chilling, doing no matter. And earlier than that may have freaked the shit out of me as a result of I wanted to have each second I may on my enterprise would fail.

However within the final 12 months or so I’ve actually began experimenting with having day off, honoring my day off and actually seeing that as being a extremely productive factor that I can do. And for those who’ve listened to this podcast for some time, you’ll have heard me discuss totally different iterations I’ve gone by with this. For quarter two of this 12 months, I’m having Saturdays as my time off, even when it’s the craziest week in my enterprise, I’ve Saturday’s off. Meaning no running a blog, no podcasting, no teaching purchasers, no Instagram posts, no electronic mail, nothing, nothing on a Saturday.

And that makes me be a lot extra productive with my time beforehand, like within the first quarter of this 12 months. And firstly of this 12 months, I actually reinstated my time off as a result of I gotten sloppy with it. After which I seen that I simply was feeling like, not as enthusiastic about issues as a result of there was no downtime, there was no finish in sight. And despite the fact that I like my enterprise, like my mind wants a second to get better.

And despite the fact that my time off, I take into consideration my enterprise all day anyway, like, that’s simply what my mind like eager about. I nonetheless want a second to love, be me outdoors of my enterprise to essentially see that I’m precious, no matter how a lot cash I’m making, what number of followers I’ve, how many individuals on my electronic mail listing, what number of DMS I’m getting like none of that really actually says something about me.

And it’s so highly effective to have time the place you’ll be able to create an identification for your self. That’s not associated to the outcomes that you simply’re reaching in your life. And I used to be seeing that actually like my enterprise and me would love the identical factor. And I didn’t have that identification. And I didn’t know what I preferred to do outdoors of enterprise. And sure, like, it’s nice that I like my enterprise. However I must produce other issues that I like doing. I must have greater than that.

In order that I don’t have my like, I’m not then hooked on to how the enterprise goes when it comes to my very own self-worth and my very own identification. I have to be Sam after which sure, I’m right here on the podcast as Sam Laura Brown. However I simply have to be simply plain outdated Sam only for me doing issues that don’t get documented and don’t get shared. And nobody is aware of about like, I simply must have part of me that’s only for me and have that point to discover like What else am I occupied with? What else may I wish to pursue? So I reinstated that for the primary quarter of this 12 months, I had Sunday off, which was actually good. However Steve works each single Sunday.

And so I by no means acquired to hang around with him on my time off. So now it’s Saturday as a result of he has each second Saturday off for those who don’t know what Steve does, he’s a paramedic and an emergency nurse. He has two totally different jobs. So he works as a paramedic on the weekends. And I might like to see him on a few of my days off. So and simply have a sleeping collectively and simply chill. In order that’s why my time off now could be Saturday for this quarter. I’m simply experimenting with it. And we’ll see the way it goes and the way it matches in with all the pieces. And I’m at all times open to altering that sooner or later.

Anyway, have I made some extent but on this podcast episode? I’m undecided. However what I’m making an attempt to say is that I had two weeks off, in beforehand, I might have made that imply my enterprise goes to fail. I’m going to be falling behind. And I might simply have like, I wouldn’t even be capable to articulate it simply this sense of like, shit gonna go dangerous. And I have to be there each second.

And it’s so highly effective. I’ve accomplished this a lot of totally different occasions we simply appear to be the world retains spinning. Like that’s one thing I inform myself very often like, it simply type of offers me the sense of calm just like the world will preserve spinning. If I miss this deadline, the world will preserve spinning if this occurs the world will preserve spinning if that occurs the world will preserve spinning prefer it simply jogs my memory that it’s not an enormous fucking deal. And I discover it actually calming to simply have that thought to floor me.

And so I did put together podcast episode in order that whereas I used to be away, these two weeks that I will probably be displaying up right here on the podcast. However I emailed my electronic mail subscribers and mentioned, Hey, I’m not going to be emailing you for a few weeks. As a result of that is so essential. I need to be an instance of what I educate. And I educate that relaxation is essential. And I educate that doing your personal private improvement work is essential. So I actually needed to allow you to guys know that, like I may have automated all the pieces.

So that you wouldn’t have recognized that I used to be even in Bali, in order that all the pieces would simply appear to be I used to be at residence, hustling away. However I actually need to educate that relaxation is essential. And you’ll take a step again and all the pieces will preserve spinning, the world will preserve spinning, what you are promoting can continue to grow while you’re resting. And I did that, and I mentioned to my electronic mail listing, hey, I’m not going to be emailing you. I’m having a break, I’m practising what I preach, I’m doing my very own private improvement work, I’m having a relaxation.

And likewise, folks in all probability wouldn’t have seen, until I had mentioned, Hey, I’m having two weeks off. And despite the fact that that may sound a bit unhappy that possibly nobody would discover. However I discover it so liberating, as a result of it simply takes that strain off me to have all the pieces be a sure approach on a regular basis, and to simply enable myself to be human and to have an actual human expertise. And to be an instance of somebody who’s rising their enterprise and making an affect, however has every week off.

And my plan is to have the final week of each quarter off. In order that’d be the final week of June, which is definitely when my anniversary with Steve is. After which the final week of September, and no final week of the 12 months. And I’m simply calling that out as like that is day off non negotiable. Even when I’ve nothing to do, and I’m sitting at residence, twiddling my thumbs. I’m not doing any enterprise work, I’m having that week off. I’m having that house for myself.

So my advice, in case you are presently feeling very connected to being productive on a regular basis, my largest recommendation to you is to begin placing in only one small boundary about whenever you aren’t allowed to be productive. So I did this, like I began experimenting with this after I was nonetheless finding out, I did legislation and finance twin diploma. And I imply, everybody was at all times saying like, wow, you have to be having to do quite a lot of research. And so it type of fed into that want as nicely to be productive on a regular basis slash trying busy feeling busy.

However I seen that when research was an choice 24/7 it meant that after I was chilling, or after I was at a pal’s place, or with household, or at my job, that I at all times felt responsible, as a result of research was at all times an choice. So what I did, and I did this, for one of many Summers was I dedicated to and this is sort of a actually outdated weblog submit on my weblog. I’ll hyperlink it within the present notes if anybody desires to learn it. However I dedicated to I needed to go to the seashore each weekend, I reside about an hour away from the Gold Coast within the Sunshine Coast. And we now have so many stunning seashores right here.

And I had seen that I barely had gone to the seashore in any respect, and I like the seashore. So I dedicated to myself that I used to be gonna go to the seashore each single weekend, even when it was on my own, which I’ve no situation with doing that. However even when it was just for like me to be there for an hour, so I drive an hour simply to remain for an hour after which drive an hour residence, which was nice as a result of I like audiobooks.

And I then needed to do all of my research all through the week. And it was simply not an choice to check on the weekend. And I needed to get all the pieces accomplished all through the week. And what it meant was that I needed to be extra productive. I didn’t have the time anymore to procrastinate and there was this clear finish in sight the place my mind may get this reprieve and will have this relaxation. So I acquired a lot extra productive.

I studied a lot extra like I used to be really a lot extra engaged by forcing myself to have much less time. And I spoke about this in Episode 99. However that’s what I’m experimenting with this upcoming quarter from April to the tip of June, with really lowering my work hours, to being not more than 4 hours per day, that is excluding Sundays, after I’ll be on my teaching calls and doing podcast episodes. However after I’m within the co working house, I’m going to be doing three hours of energetic private improvement. After which the remainder of the time will probably be work. And I’m making that smaller as a result of it was initially six hours, I’m making it smaller, in order that I’ve to be extra intentional with that point.

And I’ve to essentially prioritize, and I’ve to essentially plan it, as a result of I don’t have sufficient time to be sloppy with it. So when you’ve got this 24/7 all the pieces’s on the desk, all the pieces’s an choice type of strategy. It’s really easy to be sloppy with time. And also you might need discovered this the place you’ve gotten quite a lot of time in your day, like, Yeah, I’m gonna go to the health club, however you by no means really resolve whenever you’re going to go and also you’re like, I’ll go after breakfast, and I don’t really feel prefer it. I’ll go after lunch.

Really, I’ll go earlier than dinner. Now it’s dinner, I’ll go after dinner. Oh, wait, it’s too late. Like, typically when we now have probably the most time, that’s once we could be so sloppy with it. And I’ve at all times discovered that I’m the most efficient when I’ve the least period of time to get issues accomplished. It’s Parkinson’s Regulation, the time it takes to do one thing expands to the time we now have to do it. And the identical with contracting, if we now have much less time to get one thing accomplished, we can do it in much less time.

In order that’s the strategy that I’m taking. However for me, one thing I’m actually specializing in, is having Saturday off, that’s non negotiable. After which I’m in that private improvement time. I’m going to hyperlink an episode that Brooke Castillo shared about tremendous pondering. However I’m really going to be asking my mind higher questions as an alternative of simply at all times been on autopilot mode. And persevering with with my similar ideas and doing issues in the identical approach. Like, sure, a few of that point, we’ll be watching Netflix with Steve and chilling and doing no matter.

However then a few of that point as nicely, the non-public improvement time, I’m going to be doing private improvement work, together with what Brooke calls tremendous pondering, which is mainly asking your mind higher questions, actually evaluating your life and bringing your mindset as much as the following degree. I haven’t defined that very nicely, however she explains it very well in her podcast episode. So I’ll hyperlink that for you as nicely within the present notes. However I’m actually making an attempt to say right here, this episode, relaxation is so extremely essential. And for those who’re like in search of productiveness suggestions, you’re making an attempt to determine why is it that I can’t comply with by? Why is it that I at all times really feel responsible after I relaxation, then I actually have only one motion step for you at present.

And that’s to carve out one little pocket of time within the week, only one, teeny, tiny that it’s fully off the desk to do no matter that factor is you usually really feel responsible about whether or not that’s working in what you are promoting, working in your weblog, finding out, cleansing, I don’t care, no matter it’s that you simply’re like, I needs to be doing that possibly it’s even studying, possibly it’s meditating, possibly you’ve turned all of these enjoyable private improvement issues right into a chore.

Simply no matter you’re feeling responsible about. Usually, whenever you’re resting, I would like you to simply have a bit pocket of time. If it feels uncomfortable, which means you’re doing it proper. Let’s have this pocket of time the place you’re not allowed to do something productive. And this isn’t particularly essential. Should you don’t consider you’ve gotten sufficient time to do it. Should you consider you don’t have a advisable minimal one hour, however ideally, I’d such as you to take a look at half a day for those who may even a full day like I do. Like we now have to attract the road within the sand for ourselves as a result of nobody else goes to try this.

Notably I do know so a lot of you listening to this are entrepreneurs otherwise you need to be nobody tells us when the day is over. So we now have to attract that line for ourselves. And if we don’t, then we run our mind down as a result of we’re always feeling responsible and we find yourself on this self pity cycle once more, episode 84 If you wish to hear about that, however we simply find yourself exhausting our mind due to all of the feelings we’re feeling once we’re resting.

However for those who can carve out time, and once more, for those who don’t really feel like you’ve gotten the time to do that, then you definately positively want to do that. It’s type of like the identical with meditation train, for those who don’t really feel like you’ve gotten the time, that’s whenever you want it probably the most. That’s how this works, too. Should you don’t really feel like you’ve gotten sufficient time to have the privilege to chop a while out, I promise you, even for those who experiment with this for simply two weeks, that you simply’ll must be extra intentional together with your time when you’ve gotten much less, and also you’ll be extra productive.

After which whenever you’re in that point interval, the place you’re not allowed to do the productive factor, you’ll have to really discover. Wait, who am I after I’m not being productive? And the way could be uncomfortable in The 4 Hour Workweek, by Tim Ferriss, I’ll hyperlink his e book and his the podcast episode I did concerning the e book, he talks in that about filling the void. So the 4 hour workweek, for those who like productiveness, you’ll love the e book, he talks about the best way to be more practical. And the purpose isn’t actually to work 4 hours every week is simply to essentially spend time on solely the issues that matter. And he talks about within the closing chapter about filling the void and the significance of doing that.

As a result of lots of people, and that is really after I began taking part in round with having day off after I learn that e book. He talks about how once we really get actually efficient and once we create this spare time, so many people don’t even know what we need to do in that point, which is so ironic as a result of all of us fantasize about having extra time. After which we get it. We’re like oh my god, what I do at the moment. So lots of people fill that void with busy work and what he calls W4W which is figure for work sake.

And I discovered myself like that’s what I used to be doing, too. I didn’t know what I needed to do in my downtime. And there was at all times this limitless to do lists. Okay, so I’ll simply preserve engaged on my to do listing. Nevertheless it was actually uncomfortable for me. For the primary couple of months of getting that full time off. I used to be like, wait, what do I love to do particularly for me, like, this enterprise is de facto based mostly on one thing I’m very inquisitive about personally, and I might be doing quite a lot of private improvement.

Even when I wasn’t sharing it, it’s one thing that was a interest for me. And now it’s like, okay, nicely who am I outdoors of all of that, and what different issues do I like doing and one thing that I’ve found I like doing is studying about inside design and studying about gardening like outdoors and in addition indoor vegetation. I like indoor vegetation. Final evening, I used to be researching which indoor vegetation to get in my workplace, I have already got 5 or 6 of them that I would like just a few biggies to have in numerous corners of the room. However that’s one thing that I’m actually occupied with that I don’t actually discuss, I don’t share I don’t submit about it.

Like that’s simply one thing I do for me and I wanted to search out various things that I actually loved doing that didn’t have this outcome connected that weren’t productive that I simply take pleasure in for the sake of doing them. So for those who really feel quite a lot of resistance to carving out a while, even for those who carve out 40 minutes, simply so you’ll be able to watch your favourite Netflix present with out feeling responsible belief me it appears like so totally different to as an alternative of getting all this 24/7 purpose of productiveness after which procrastinating and then you definately really feel shit to simply make the time you procrastinate. Anyway, carve that out as time you can have off guilt free, then please DM me and inform me the way it goes.

However for those who’re feeling resistant, please do that. I don’t know if I’ve articulated this nicely however having two weeks off actually simply confirmed me, A, The world retains spinning, B, nobody actually discover. And that’s like so liberating for me. And C, that my enterprise like can really develop my enterprise continued to develop whereas I wasn’t engaged on it. So it helps me to disconnect exhausting work from success and having to earn it and buying and selling time for cash. I made cash, vital quantity of great quantities of cash whereas I used to be resting. And in order that’s actually highly effective as nicely to simply have additional proof that that’s potential.

So, yeah, it was actually nice and to simply have a bit minute to overlook my enterprise was actually useful and to get enthusiastic about it once more and to have recent concepts and And with the Tremendous pondering stuff, and mainly simply doing quite a lot of journaling and including time for my mind to make connections for my unconscious thoughts to deliver concepts to the floor that usually I’m so busy that I ignore my instinct and people hunches that I’ve, identical to really permitting myself to listen to them and to contemplate appearing on them and what that may appear to be. In order that’s all I’ve to share with you in at present’s episode. I hope this has been useful. I do really feel like I’ve simply babbled on about this. However that’s what this podcast is. Thanks for being right here. I like you. I respect you. And I’ll speak to you within the subsequent episode. Bye.

In order that was handed me from 2019, sharing what it’s to be resting with out guilt, why that’s essential, and what that may appear to be. So I hope that you simply discovered that useful, I hope it has impressed you to essentially make clear relaxation a precedence in your life and in what you are promoting. So this collection is all about clear relaxation. And within the subsequent episode, I’m going to be sharing 5 the reason why clear relaxation is tough whenever you’re working from a to do listing and what to do as an alternative, if you wish to get clear relaxation, if you realize that that’s one thing that’s going to be essential for you on what you are promoting journey.

And for those who can relate to what I share on this podcast, then that’s going to be the case, then I need to just remember to are setting your self up for fulfillment. And which means that you’re planning correctly and that you simply aren’t working from a to do listing it’s simply so exhausting to get good high quality, clear relaxation and to get it off in and off. Whenever you’re strolling from a to do listing, I’m going to share precisely why that’s within the subsequent episode and what to do as an alternative.

Then within the third episode, on this collection, I’m sharing the best way to plan out your clear relaxation and the way a lot try to be getting. After which the episode after that’s going to be what counts as clear relaxation and what doesn’t. After which lastly, on this collection, I’m going to be sharing what I stand up to after I’m taking clear relaxation, what that appears like for me and the way my clear breasts apply has advanced over time and in addition as I’ve gone by totally different phases of my enterprise and in addition totally different phases of life as nicely.

So with that mentioned, be sure you go and discover out extra about becoming a member of us in PGSD to apply clear relaxation to apply planning correctly and all of these issues.

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